I can’t believe we’re 10 weeks pregnant and we’ve known for 5 weeks already.
Today is Tuesday 4th December and that means we’re exactly 10 weeks pregnant today, where’s the time going? For the first time properly today it’s started to feel real. I’m still not there 100% but I don’t think I will be until I can unleash this HUGE secret into the world.
Today we went for our first visit to the midwife for a ‘booking in’ appointment. The short story is that the midwife is lovely, she asked a zillion questions, Donetta gave blood and urine samples and everything is fine.
In this post however, I’m giving you my LIVE REACTION to everything that’s happening as it’s happening. We’ve been home a couple of hours after the appointment and I’m feeling really relaxed about how things are right now after 5 pretty shitty weeks. If you’ve been following this live reaction series you’ll know it’s been no picnic so far, but today has been a good positive pregnancy day. I feel like there’s been a step forward taken today, like it’s official now we’ve been and seen a midwife.
The best thing has been that Donetta is almost a fully functioning human again, I’m closer to having my wife back! Eating and feeling sick is still a constant battle, but she’s doing extraordinary things now like getting dressed and sitting up HAHA! Honestly though it’s been awful for her and the knock on effect isn’t pretty either and the last few weeks has effected us all. It feels like these last few days in addition to today’s appointment, it’s like we’ve broken through to the next stage if that makes sense. Donetta is still feeling sick but is finding ways of battling it so it doesn’t take over as it has been.
We’ve told Corben too which is amazing! I’ve wanted to tell him for ages now but Donetta wanted to wait a bit longer, at least until the worst of this early pregnancy sickness thing had calmed down. I took him for a bath and jumped in with him to have a nice little chat. Donetta came to join us and we broke the news while we had him somewhere he couldn’t be running around and it worked.
Something else I wanted to address too…
We’ve heard some home educators talk about their negative experiences with midwives during pregnancy and health services in general. We’ve heard stories of home educators feeling judged or that they’ve been treated differently because they’ve declared they home educate their current children. In all the dealings we’ve had with health services with Corben and at today’s midwife appointment, I can honestly say we’ve never felt anything of the sort. I often wonder if some people are looking for things that aren’t actually there, pre-judging the judging maybe? Or maybe we’ve just been lucky and have always dealt with more open minded people.
Our midwife today was informed not only that we home educate Corben but that we work from home as bloggers too, it’s like a double whammy! We do a job that many don’t see as being a ‘real’ job AND we say F U to the system and home educate. Neither things had her battering an eye lid, she was nicely and genuinely intrigued by our lifestyle, exactly how I’d expect people to be. So again no issues whatsoever from this view point. I’d be interested to know if you’ve ever felt anything different or had a different experience to what I’m describing here.
Lastly, another one that I’ve spoken about previously on the dad blog. Dads feeling left out during the pregnancy and in particular by midwives at appointments. I’m not buying it. I’ve always been of the mind that of course 99% of the conversation in midwife appointments is going to be directed at the mums, they’ve got a life growing inside their body! I’ve read a few dad blogs and seen several conversations online involving dads that have felt left out etc. This is my second time around and I’ve never felt this way at all, maybe again I’m lucky?
I do think there’s a few similarities with the home educators and dads that can feel this way. Maybe there is an element of thinking it might happen and then looking for it? I could be wrong, naive and/or lucky that I’ve not experienced this, again please do tell me if you’ve experienced anything of the sort.
Anyway, this is a very positive day in our pregnancy. Week 10, first midwife appointment done and Donetta is returning back to her normal self more and more with each day!
Thanks for reading along, there’s loads more content being created as we speak about specific parts of our pregnancy journey but this is definitely my favourite series. I know the future David is going to love me, the current David for keeping up with the live reactions, getting down what I feel as I feel it.
THANKS FOR READING MY PREGNANCY LIVE REACTION SERIES OF BLOG POSTS. I’M GOING TO CONTINUE THIS SERIES THROUGHOUT OUR PREGNANCY JOURNEY TO CAPTURE AS MANY RAW EMOTIONS AND THOUGHTS AS I CAN AS IT ALL UNFOLDS. THERE WILL BE YOUTUBE VIDEOS TOO OVER ON DAVID AND DONETTA.