A year on…
Donetta and I have been married for just over a year now and there’s been a lot of changes, but one thing has remained exactly the same.
We moved house last year, 10th June 2015 and got married on the 13th June, 3 days later. Anyone that knows Donetta and I will also know we tend to make decisions, big or small and go for it. We do examine things and weigh up our options, but once decided there’s pretty much no stopping us.
We did book our wedding to be in December with the winter theme in mind. We spent countless hours writing down figures, lists, ideas and installing 101 wedding planner apps on our phones. Then one day we were walking past the registry office and I said ‘Do you even care about all that shite we’ve written down?’ She said ‘Nope, I just want to be married’, so we walked in that day, mid-May and said ‘Hello lady, when’s the next date available to get married after the 10th June’. (The 10th was our payday, so you see, a spare of the moment decision but still with some thought behind it!) The lady told us Saturday 13th June was available, we said ‘Book it!’
Our 12 week scan of Corben was on a 13th, we found out he was a he on a 13th so as soon as she said the 13th it was a no-brainer. We planned, booked and sorted the whole thing in just 4 weeks, actually closer to 3 weeks. Oh and we were moving house! So you see, we’re a pretty fierce force to be reckoned with when we make decisions. The wedding was no frills, nothing fancy but turned out to be exactly how we wanted it. We had roughly 30 people attend and everyone enjoyed themselves, what more do you need?
I’ve heard the cliches and the stories about how things change once that ring gets on the finger, I imagine the origin of such phrases is a lonely person that managed to balls up their own marriage. Now I’m not particularly superstitious, I don’t usually believe a lot of the nonsense people spout on inspirational quotes but, I truly believe that regarding meeting the right person for you, you do really know when you know. I can honestly say hand on heart that the very first time I met Donetta I just knew we’d be married and happy together. She had a spider as a pet. Let me say that again, she had a spider, as a pet! If there’s one thing on this earth I’m petrified of, it’s spiders, yet she still dragged me in! Granted the spider had to stay at her next door neighbours whenever I stayed over.
Enough sloppy stuff. Close friends and family will have seen the change in me since meeting Donetta and being a married man. I’m still the same person but with a hugely different outlook on life, a purpose.
Daughter 1 started high school September 2015 and grew up a decade in the process. I became a stay-at-home Dad and full time blogger and vlogger. Erm, yeah we moved house again, this time just a few days after our anniversary rather than before! This does mean that we still owe ourselves something to celebrate.
So you see, tonnes has changed in the last 12 months, 1st year of marriage but one thing remains the same, US! We are exactly how we’ve always been. I’d say up until recently I used to forget I was married, it would suddenly spring to mind and I’d shout, ‘Haha Donetta, we’re married!’ I started to type what I thought the meaning of marriage was, then I remembered, I don’t know. I think maybe to us we saw marriage as the highest form of commitment and wanted to have that in our armory. Donetta taking my name for me was us as a couple saying we are now one, solidarity.
Do I feel any different now a year on, not really. It’s harder to spot who’s post is who’s now we’re both D Shaul. You need to remember to check the title, Mr or Mrs. That’s as complicated as our married life is really, we like to be happy and get on with doing things that make us happy.
Married life is as easy as you want to make it. Let me know your stories, what was your wedding like? Can anyone beat 4 weeks to plan a wedding?
Thanks for reading and as always I really do appreciate any comments/feedback etc 🙂