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Where To Find Work | Bloggers

Where To Find Work | Bloggers

OK first up, with blogging there’s not set time structure as to when you’ll get your first free product or even your first PAID sponsored post.

I’m going to assume you’ve got all the basics sorted, a blog, social media platforms and you’ve got several good quality posts on your blog. If you haven’t done all of this then go read the other posts first > Blag Your Blog

Once you’ve got into the swing of this blogging malarkey and you’ve decided you want to start putting yourself forward for brand work, then there are a few places to look to see what’s about…

Response Source

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For your first brand work it’s more realistic to look at receiving products in return for a blog post review than it is to seek out paid opportunities. This is simply because brands are more likely to dish out a few free goodies than pay actual cash to a fairly new blogger/platform who is likely to have a relatively small following to begin with.

Response Source is the best service I’ve used for putting the word out that you’re after products to review. You fill in a form with your details and a description of what it is your after ‘Mothers Day Gift Guide’ products for example and sit back and wait for the emails to roll in. The form does include sections where you give as many details as possible as to why brands should collaborate with you and you have to enter some numbers to back up your claim.

Don’t be shy to use your real numbers, there are many smaller and start-up brands that specifically target micro-influencers in specific niche’s so don’t add extra 0’s on, it could come back to bite you in the arse in future.

When it comes to gift guides Response Source is my go-to place. I’ve had anything from a £7.99 men’s gift set to a £150 kids BMX. Oh, it’s free to use too!


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As you go along your blogging journey you will sniff out which Facebook groups work for you, there are literally hundreds and most of them have so many rules it can take a full day figuring out what you’re allowed to post and end up never posting anyway!

Luckily for you I’ve taken some of the work off your plate and here’s a couple of links to groups that I find extremely helpful, specifically for blogging work/opportunities.

Bloggers On Thin Ice

UK Blogger Opportunities

BlogON UK Blogger Opportunities

Bloggers Required

I’ve had a fair few opportunities from these Facebook Groups and Pages. There’s some awesome bloggers that actively seek out and share opportunities with others in these groups, generally a great environment to be involved with.


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Twitter is fast paced and it’s easy to miss out on opportunities suited to you. Here’s a list of #Hashtags to search specifically so you don’t miss out on anything – Thanks to Sarah Anguish from Boo Roo and Tigger Too for bombarding me with these #Hashtags 🙂





#ParentBloggers – Change this to your niche as required, #BeautyBloggers etc.


Another useful tip for Twitter is to follow the PR accounts that are tweeting about opportunities using these hashtags. You’re more likely to see their tweets obviously and could even make a start building a relationship with them. There’s more tips in the next bit about Instagram that you can relate to Twitter too.


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Instagram is heavily #Hashtag run, much like Twitter. Using the #Hashtags above from Twitter can also work for Instagram. Searching for #BrandAmbassador seems to pop up a lot on Instagram too.

What I find best with Instagram though, is searching for new/smaller businesses and brands that are building their online presence on the Instagram platform. There’s no doubt that as I write this in March 2018 Instagram is by far the No.1 platform in terms of popularity and brands are utilising this. My natural instinct when looking for products such as clothing or gift type products, is to start searching on Instagram. There are endless amounts of smaller businesses that are looking for a help in hand getting their brand noticed and many are up for collaborating with bloggers in return for free products.

I see Instagram collaborations on grids and stories every single day. A little start up business making bath boards that hold your glass of wine and tablet etc. Get them DM’d and start up a conversation. Search for brands that have a message you like or products that look great, send them a DM, there is the saying it’s all going down in the DM’s… Because it is!

Direct Pitching To Brands

This is something that can seem daunting at first, contacting a brand directly to ask them if they’d like to collaborate with you.

There are a couple of things I’d do before going ahead with this approach, otherwise you can risk being embarrassed. There’s a post coming up shortly about Pitching To Brands so I won’t go into details here, but in short…

  • Research the brand first. Are they up with social media and the world of blogging? What’s their online presence like, does it fit with your type of content? How big is their following already, you don’t want to pitch your 2K Insta followers when they already have 200K, in particular if their followers are within the same niche as yourself.
  • Think about what you can offer them. Even if you have a smaller following than the brand, you may have the exact demographic they’d be looking for.
  • Make sure you have good quality content published already, you can refer to this so they can see exactly what you have to offer. Remember your content is your CV within the blogging world.

More of this to come soon. 

I’ve found that researching businesses and brands within your local area is a good start. You have an automatic ‘in’ with them as you start off revealing you’re from the same area. Make a list of brands you’d like to work with in your area and start researching and reaching out. Take a free meal at a local restaurant, get your nails done at the salon in town or review products by a local small business to help raise their profile. Look for WINWIN situations.


Recently there seems a surge in the amount of Blogger Outreach programs to sign up with but I’ve not had enough from any of them in particular to recommend them specifically. Basically they want you to register your details with them, then when brands go to them looking for bloggers to collaborate with they have your details on file. I’ve signed up with loads of them so I can tell you about them from first hand experience, but I’ve had minimal work so far.

There you go, I hope one of these methods will help you land your first branded work or increase the work you’re currently getting. Please do share anything in addition to these that you know of in the comments and spread the knowledge.

I’m continually creating as many posts in this Blag Your Blog section of the DadvWorld website as I can to help you understand, figure out and achieve your blogging goals. I’d love your feedback and/or further questions to help me create the content you need.

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It’s OK To Be Different

It’s OK To Be Different

Today I had a feeling similar to that of a football coach when they’ve been working on something in training, then their team go and execute it perfectly on match day. Or when a teacher has been teaching a child something for a few weeks and one day it clicks and they just get it.

Well it was kind of like that, only with a sprinkle of embarrassment too. You see, what it is that we’ve been drilling into Corben that he perfectly executed today, is to always be his own person. Don’t be a sheep and do things because others are doing them, do them only if it’s what you want to do. Dare to be different if you will.

Today Corben and I went off to the Cast in Doncaster to watch a live interactive performance, Stan and Mabel AND THE RACE FOR SPACE by Music In The Round. The theatre had about 100 people in it I’d say, probably 60 ish of those were other kids. At the front there was a big screen with images, a 5 piece orchestra and a narrator. They were all excellent by the way! So the show format was basically the narrator teaching the kids words to a short song and actions to go along with them, whilst the orchestra played live music. Everything synced together with the images on the big screen and we were all taken along through the story of Stan and Mabel.

Now I’ve put the picture in your minds, imagine a Dad and Son sat right at the back up at the top… Bare in mind from back to front we’re talking only approx 10 rows of seats, so its all pretty close together.

Narrator – …and then you sing ‘wild and free’ – (accompanied by actions)

Everyone repeats and the room goes quiet for a second waiting for the next bit.

Corben decided to fill this second of silence with this… Which everyone heard.

‘Huh, well she’s not making me do that, it’s ridiculous’

Now, part of me is laughing my absolute nuts off, only I’m an adult and understand decorum so that part of me had to be kept inside. The outwardly part of me knows this is where I ‘parent’ and tell him it’s just not cool to take the wind out of someone’s sails like that. The most important part of me in that very moment however, was proud.

Yeah, I was proud. Proud that in a room full of people listening, watching and following instructions, he’d decided it simply wasn’t his thing and has the confidence to say so. Now we’ll have to work on the literal saying-so part of this, but the main message of be your own man is clearly getting through.

Untwist your knickers, I’m not saying any of the other children are wrong to be joining in and following instructions, not at all! It was fun, I was doing it, it added to the entire experience and a little bit of me was willing Corben to join in and enjoy himself just because, well why not. All of the other children clearly were into this sort of thing and Corben just wasn’t. Now if it had been a superhero story I can guarantee he’d have been joining in and shouting about how much he was loving it, which is why I was so proud that I knew he wasn’t just being an ungrateful little shit, he just genuinely didn’t like this kind of thing so didn’t want to do it.

Stan and Mabel are a dog and cat duo that basically round up other animals to find a rocket and fly off to space. Corben did perk up during the part when they were highjacking a rocket from some astronauts but other than that he just watched and dished out the odd, ill-timed comment.

Corben – ‘Ha, that bear looks like he’s not alive anymore’

Me – ‘No mate, he’s tired, talk a bit lower while the lady is telling the story’ – and so other parents don’t question me as to why you’ve mentioned death twice already!

The older Corben gets, the more I’m seeing our parenting style come out. We’ve always been big on Corben being his own person and we do like to let him lead the way in many things we do, for enjoyment and learning. If he’s choosing the topics for learning for example, he’s more likely to learn as it’s his natural interest at that moment. We also like to put him in as many different situations as possible and offer him as many varied opportunities as we can so we can decipher what he likes and/or what suits him best when planning the next thing.

Every time he tries something new it becomes more and more apparent where his natural interests and strengths are and we plan to use this information to be able to tailor his education and choose which opportunities are best to present him. I think it’s fantastic that he’s so black and white when it comes to making us aware of his interests.

He loves superheroes and zombies and I mean loves them! Had today’s story been relating to either of these he would have lost his shit over it, in a good way! That’s just him, he likes goodies and baddies battling, he like gory zombies and we’re finding ways to relate this to learning too.

Lesson learnt for me today. Next time a nice little story about some cool animals and a space rocket comes along with an all singing all action narrator, I’ll pass and wait for the superhero version instead.

I will say though, if your child does like story time that involves animals and loves getting involved in the story with singing and actions, its genuinely a fantastic show. Corben being Corben didn’t take away the fact that this production is excellent. The narrator was impressive, clearly talented and a great story reader. Singing, dancing and getting all the other children really involved was great to see. The orchestra were great, I do love live music like that and the story was very good too.

They’re touring with the show across the UK and I highly recommend it for a good hours interactive entertainment for kids 3-7 years old.

Here’s links to all the details…

Music In The Round Website

YouTube Channel

Stan and Mabel are back! And this time, they’re joined by a whole carnival of animals as they escape from the School for Wild and Dangerous Animals in search of a safe place to call their home.



To Blog Or Not To Blog | by Silly Daddy Chronicles

To Blog Or Not To Blog | by Silly Daddy Chronicles

Something slightly different on the blog today. My good friend Markus from The Silly Daddy Chronicles shares his raw and honest experience with blogging and dyspraxia.

Blogging consistently with Dyspraxia or why aren’t I swimming in it already?

I’m on my second blog since I started writing things down 6 years ago.

Some of my problem of blogging consistently is definitely my dyspraxia. It does creep into all parts of my life. I learned a lot about myself and dyspraxia over the last few months. Not from books or doctors. Obviously from a medical point of view doctors know their stuff so it be silly to argue with one. No I just spoke to another dyspraxic person Emma – Dyspraxic Domesticated Mummy and the amount of times she said that she has problems with the exact same things made me realise that while it is healthy to take responsibility for your actions at least I know to some extent why this was likely to happen, I still have a daily battle with organising, prioritising, distractions but now it is a bit clearer why. I still hate deadlines, and find it very difficult to deal with the guilt when I haven’t done something at the time I said I was going to do it or as I just said if I miss a deadline and let someone down.

Which brings us to another added complication in my life. I suffer from chronic low self esteem and self worth. I just don’t seem to be able to snap out of this. I’m my own worst critic, worst enemy. I can sabotage things beautifully and always blame myself for things that go wrong, even when I am not completely or at all to blame. It is difficult to stay positive when you are me.

Everyone always says do not compare yourself to others. That is hard though. If I hadn’t done this or if I had done that would I be more like David from DadvWorld these days? It is Just amazing what he is doing, how he is going from strength to strength.

Then there is the added problem that friends and family read everything I write / post. So I censor myself as to not embarrass others and myself too much. It is not just the embarass part, I don’t want to offend anyone really.

All this leads to me being uncertain if i should post something or not. So I tend not to just because as I said I don’t want to tread on anyone’s toes. Don’t want to embarrass or hurt anyone.

What would you do in my situation?

Markus, The Silly Daddy Chronicles

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Very honest stuff from Markus, I’m absolutely honoured that you’ve mentioned me and asked me to publish this on your behalf. I hope as many people as possible can get involved and drop some comments with their advice or their own stories of similar experiences.

On a less serious note, if you’re ever going to compare yourself to anyone, raise the bar higher than me! LOL 🙂




Our 5-Year-Old Sleeps With Us, So What?

Our 5-Year-Old Sleeps With Us, So What?

Every night at around 8pm Corben gets a nice cuddle to sleep on the sofa all snuggled up with his pillow and quilt cover. Then when we’re ready to go up to bed at usually gone midnight, I carry him up and plonk him between us. Guess what, we all get plenty of sleep.

Definitely one of the most highly debated parenting topics is co-sleeping. Should you, shouldn’t you, what effects will it have later in life, what effects won’t it have…?!

Well I’ll tell you now one effect it has on the three of us and probably the most important effect of all, we get sleep and plenty of it.

OK I say we get plenty of sleep, we get the option is probably more accurate. Corben most nights will get 12 hours and has done for several years now. This means the only way Donetta and I don’t get enough is if we stay up too late ourselves. Obviously there is the odd night when things don’t go to plan, or in the holidays when the girls are off school the usual routine will go out of the window. The way Donetta’s shifts land means that one night at least a week the lad will have to stay up until 10pm and that throws him off slightly the following morning but easily gets back into the swing of things soon enough.

I should let those of you that aren’t regular readers know that we Home Educate Corben so there’s no worry about him staying up a little too late and then having to wake him early for school. Most mornings he’ll wake at around 8am when he’s gone to sleep between 8-8.30pm the previous night. He loves his sleep. He doesn’t love having to go to sleep, but once he’s snuggled up it’s a struggle waking him up if it’s a day we have to be up and out.

I know there might be some of you steaming from the ears reading this, we’re not showing off as we know for many parents the whole sleep thing is an absolute nightmare from start to finish, if the finish ever even happens!

What I want to do is just let you in on how our routine goes and our opinion on the whole co-sleeping thing and what results we’re getting.

When he was a baby he slept next to our bed in his cot, we didn’t think it was a good idea to co-sleep when he was still so small. It must have been easily 3 or even 4 years now since Corben, 5, has settled down with his cover and pillow on the sofa. He’ll watch his iPad and have a chat with whichever one of us he’s chosen that night for an hour, then everything is turned off and we stay on the sofa with him until he drops off. 9/10 nights it works well. After the inevitable, ‘I need a wee’, ‘I’m hungry’ and 17000 questions about what we’re doing tomorrow and re-visiting events from earlier that day. We’ve incorporated that into the time we get him to settle down at though so it doesn’t impact too much and end up with him still being awake too late in the evening.

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Like every other kid he sometimes has those nights where he just won’t sleep but to be fair it’s not very often he plays up more than the usual bedtime shenanigans mentioned above.

Once he’s asleep he’s asleep so we get on doing what we need to do, film videos, bits of work, YouTube and Netflix binging and it’s rare we hear a peep from him. Then at usually after midnight I will carry him up to bed where we all sleep in our big bed. There’s then the occasional elbow to the nose and heel in your eye scenario but again it’s all part and parcel and doesn’t happen every night. Donetta and I get to sleep, he stays asleep and we all wake up in the morning nice and fresh. Well, after splashing my face with water and eating my Weetabix, and for Donetta she’s only functional after her morning coffee. You get the idea though, it just works.

This is our way and it has been for ages and it’s working.

Now for the possible negatives that are sure to be fired our way over this. But what about his independence, what if he grows up with some sort of attachment issues and what about us, the parents.

Well, how independent does a 5-year-old need to be, he’s like 5. He gets along just fine with his independence during the day.

Attachment issues, I call bullshit on this sort of stuff. Unless you throw me a link to proven science that shows us co-sleeping turns our children into vulnerable needy adults. He seems fine to me, again he’s 5 it’s hard to tell what his mental state will be in 20 years, currently he spends most of the day pretending he’s Batman and shaking his willy about laughing hysterically. So if we’re making judgements on his future mental health I think co-sleeping is the least of our worries.

What about us? That’s a tough one I’ll admit. Clearly we don’t have as many opportunities for ‘us’ time. I think the official term here for Corben is ‘Cock-Block’. But, we get around it in ways I’m not willing to discuss, you perverts. On a more serious note though, how much me time do parents get in general, I’m not just talking for getting your leg over, having a kid is kind of a minimum 18-year contract where you sign away privacy and me time anyway.

There will be a time, probably not so far away where he will go in his own bed and take himself off to sleep in an evening and all this co-sleeping business will be a distant memory that he rarely remembers when he grows up, so I’m not convinced there’s any mental negatives I’ve read about.

It’s similar to my feelings on breast versus bottle. Surely FED is best. I don’t care if you lob your tit out here there and everywhere or you shove a bottle of formula milk down your kids neck, along as they’re fed you’re winning! Sleeping independantly or co-sleeping, again, just sleep, everyone just get some sleep!

What’s your bedtime routine? Let me know in the comments…






What’s On Your Doorstep?

What’s On Your Doorstep?

I’m so glad that approx 18 months ago I decided to take my head out of my arse and explore all of the cool things that were on my doorstep.

It was when we decided to Home Educate Corben, we really had to investigate what social and educational opportunities were available locally. It turns out, absolutely loads!

Honestly I’m still finding places that are right in front of our noses that we had no clue about previously. Little woods to explore, playgrounds, walks, wildlife and lots of educational places and sessions are all right there waiting for you to find them. It’s almost like we’ve opened the door to an alternate world.

We’ve met some fantastic people, found some awesome places to visit and in general we’ve really had our eyes and minds opened through these experiences. We’ve found new hobbies and interests and all whilst allowing Corben to follow his creative nature at his own pace.

Today we went to a local park/woods, not somewhere we didn’t know about as it’s only just over a mile from our house, but somewhere we often forget as its tucked away.

It’s nothing fancy but it’s the experience and exploration that makes it such a cool place. It’s basically a huge woods with a massive pond in the middle and various routes to walk down. There’s a kids park too and in the summer I imagine it will be even nicer.

It’s definitely not summer right now so we got wrapped up and went to explore. Corben was obviously acting as some superhero warrior villain guy, picking up sticks and stones to use as props throughout his adventure. He saw some swans, ducks and had a few questions about the different types of trees there are. He was learning so much without even knowing it!

I used the walk to test out my Canon EOS M10 that after about 6 months of use has only been used for filming when it’s primary function is to take photos! All the photo’s I’m sharing in this post were taken by this camera, we usually use our phones but I wanted to give it a good test. I think it’s passed the test!

Donetta enjoyed posing for the camera (She didn’t!) as I ordered her around, stay there, right walk, no stop, look that way… HA! So all in all it was a really nice couple of hours. Exploring, adventure, learning and laughing, all at a place great for photo’s and only a mile from our doorstep.

What are your favourite things to do in and around your local area, I’d love to see some pics of your time there too, tag me on social media @dadvworld 🙂



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Cut The Blogging Nonsense

Cut The Blogging Nonsense

Earlier this evening I had a chat with Donetta, my wife and it became apparent that lately I’ve been drowning myself in blogging nonsense.

What is blogging nonsense?

Well, I mean all the background work that goes into being a blogger and building a blog brand. Searching out opportunities, planning ahead, strategising the next move and general admin overload.

If you’re a blogger, whether you blog around another job or as a full-time job, you’ll know blogging is far more than putting together a blog post. There’s social media presence to build, there’s SEO and new blogging techniques to learn about, there’s research, searching for work, pitching to brands and a thousand other things to do around actual writing.

It’s these things that have been occupying the majority of my time lately and have blurred my focus.

You see, I think, a lot. Those of you that join in with me over on Instagram know I can talk, well double the amount I can talk and you’re close to the amount of thinking that goes on in this head of mine. I wouldn’t say I over-think everything, I’m pretty good at thinking about a lot in a short space of time and making quick decisions. I think what’s happening with me lately is I’m thinking about too many different things as opposed to over-thinking a few things. I’m constantly scheming, planning and well, you know thinking.

That’s not necessarily a bad thing. Being a blogger and working for yourself you have to think things through, have a plan and constantly develop yourself. The thing that’s brought this to my conscious attention however, is that I’m not doing the No.1 thing I need to be doing half as much as I should… BLOGGING!

The two things I love doing are writing and creating video all with the one objective of engaging with other people. Blogging is as simple as that for me. I want to engage, advise, help, entertain, and befriend as many people as possible because that’s what I love doing. Blogging and Vlogging are my way of doing that and I’ve not been doing either half as much as I want to.

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Since the turn of the year work has been pretty slow, it seems the same across the blogging industry and this means earnings are down. Throw in the car drastically failing it’s MOT resulting in a new car and the money situation obviously doesn’t improve. This is just life, I’m not after any sympathy we still have full belly’s courtesy of Aldi, it’s so cheap its amazing! These points are just relevant as to why I’ve gone into absolute blogging nonsense overdrive.

I’ve tried to use this dry period to look for ways to enhance my blog/brand and to develop existing skills and in general try to sniff out new avenues of income. This has resulted in doing less of the things I want to be doing, the things that ultimately are the driving force to all of the other things I have been doing. Without the actual blog posts and videos the rest becomes obsolete, pointless.

Of course I’m not naive enough to take my foot off the pedal with the background work completely, but over this next month I’m definitely looking to switch things up. I want to completely switch the 80/20 split currently in favour of blogging nonsense, to go 80% pure creating. Blogs and videos galore!

I want to get back to focussing on the creative side as a priority. We have some great things coming up over the next few months, trips away, days out and collaborative brand work that I’m going to really enjoy.

According to sods law, this method should then bring all of the end results I’ve been trying to achieve by overloading on the blogging nonsense…HA! 🙂

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My Productivity Secret | Parallels Toolbox

My Productivity Secret | Parallels Toolbox

Productivity Secret ALERT!

Over the last year now I’ve been using Parallels Toolbox and it’s genius!


If you spend a lot of time at your computer like I do, I can guarantee that Parallels Toolbox would benefit you.

I’ve found this feature filled toolbox a god send in terms of helping with my productivity. Tasks that would usually require a load of messing about are taken care of with ease.

For example, screen recording. I’ve found other software a pain but Parallels Toolbox has it covered with just a click of a button. I’ve recorded a few video tutorials using the Parallels Software too and it was so easy.

You can control your laptop camera, take screenshots, download video, convert video, record audio and loads more! It’s honestly the niftiest bit of kit I’ve used. Oh and it works. I’ve clicked it all, I’m a button basher and love clicking and pressing stuff just to see what happens and this thing has delivered on everything it says it can do.

Here, check out the list of things it can do in this screenshot below…


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I’m a Blogger, Vlogger and have recently dabbled with Podcasting and this software is at the heart of it all. I use it every single day, sometimes for smaller tasks and sometimes for much bigger things. That’s another huge plus, its not just for taking screenshots and recording audio, it also helps you clear memory space on your computer, clean your drives, make GIFS and there’s a presentation mode. If ever a product was to be described as feature rich, it’s this one.

Yeah the awesome folk at Parallels have given me a free subscription to test out all these quality features, but I think you regulars know me by now, I don’t recommend rubbish! This kit is top notch and I recommend it for anyone that’s using their laptops/desktops on a regular basis, it works for both Mac and Windows.

You can try the toolbox out with a FREE 7 Day Trial, but I’m telling you now, get your hand in your pocket and buy the thing for just £15.99 A YEAR! You’re literally buying hours of saved time and mental sanity for next to nothing.


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Has Social Media Really Made Us Less Social?

Has Social Media Really Made Us Less Social?

There are so many amazing things that you can do with the internet it’s mind-blowing. It’s easy to take the internet for granted and forget how incredible it is.

Aside from the fact you can order your weekly shop from sat on your sofa, you can watch almost any show on the planet anywhere the best thing about the internet in my opinion, is the ability to connect and engage with other people.

As with almost anything in the world, a lot of our thoughts, feelings and decisions are all based on our perception of things put in front of us. I’ve seen many posts online around the fact that social media has in fact created a society of less social people. Some perceptions are that it’s done the reverse of it supposed purpose.

I disagree, my perception is entirely different. I’m not saying my way is correct because I’m open minded enough to realise that the differences of opinion on this are all down to perception not facts. I mean, how could you even measure whether social media has made us more social or not? If you could you’d then have to speak with every person on the planet to deem your findings a fact.

I believe social media has made me even more social! I speak with lots of people on a daily basis online and have even met a few in ‘real life‘ and become ‘actual friends‘. The confidence I’ve grown through connecting, engaging and speaking with people online has increased my confidence with being more social in day to day life offline too. I’ve certainly become more social through using social media.

I’ve highlighted ‘real life‘ and ‘actual friends‘ in the previous paragraph because I again have a different perception to life in 2018 from what I’ve seen many speak about online. I do believe that you can meet actual friends online and build a relationship exclusively online with other like-minded people. I speak with a few people mainly via Instagram that in reality I’m not likely to meet with. However we still speak regularly and think of each other as friends would. I think it’s the current, modern way some friendships have gone in recent years.

I speak with some people I’d consider friends online more than I do my actual friends I’ve had for years, since childhood! Social media and building relationships online I believe IS REAL LIFE in today’s world.

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My childhood friends and ex-work colleague friends aren’t always into the same things as I am, Blogging, Instagram and YouTube etc. Online I have made so many friends that are into these things and we have loads of things in common that help to build a friendship just as relevant as those built offline. I think it’s healthy to have different types of friends in different areas of your life. This doesn’t make my friends I’ve known most of my life any less important by the way, they simply occupy a different section of my life.

Then there’s people that aren’t lucky enough to have many or any friends from their day to day life. Their internet tribe of friends are their only friends. It would be ridiculous to think that those relationships would be meaningless merely because they were made via social media. I referred to some of my ‘real friends’ as ex-work colleagues too. Well now I work purely online! So people I meet online within my industry do and can become friends just as those in an actual office or warehouse or shop floor would.

Maybe some of those with the perception that social media makes us less social are referring to the fact not many people speak with strangers out and about in public, have we ever? Gone are the days when everyone in the local community knew each others business all through word of mouth. There are very few little villages of that sort left now. That’s nothing to do with social media though, that’s due to the way the country has been run into the ground over the last 30-40 years, slowly ripping the sense of community from communities.

Or is it because when ‘friends’ are on a night out they spend most of the evening looking at their phones and tagging each other on Instagram as opposed to having an actual conversation? This for me again isn’t down to social media, it’s pure ignorance and lack of manners. Sure, take a snap and share it on social media, that’s part of what it’s for, to create and save memories to look back on later. I do that and have no problem with that. If your friend only looks up from their phone every 25 minutes to offer one word answers then I have news for you… You need new friends.

I can 100% see how people consume those memes and social study videos on Facebook and buy into the fact that the very platform you’re consuming this information on is the problem why it appears there are so many ignorant people nowadays. They show very relatable scenarios that have you believing we’re all now socially inept because of social media and smartphones.

However, give your eyes a rub and look at your own lives before making your decision on this. We’ve been to visit friends on many occasions, even friends that Vlog, Instagram and share much of their lives online… On every occasion there was less social media and smartphone activity than usual! This was because we don’t get to see each other often or because it was the first ever meeting I find it bad manners to spend that time on my phone. In fact I didn’t even think about it, I was enjoying their company and we had so much to chat about I didn’t think twice about grabbing selfies every five minutes and constantly trying to convince others online that I was having such a blast! We all know those doing that are only trying to convince themselves.

So the facts about myself and the situations I experience in my life give me a different perception to that of many on the internet about social media making us less social.

I think that’s a load of shite, let me know your thoughts in the comments…



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