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Filtered Life

Instagram, Snapchat, Facebook and now real life, all using filters.

I use social media every single day, it’s a huge part of my job. I whack filters on some of my Instagram pictures and when I’m getting my Snapchat on (Usually when I’m on the toilet for some reason… Read HERE!) I’m all about the filters. I use them to enhance my photo’s or just for fun… Usually just for fun.

Now, I’m an adult. I understand filters are a tool, they’re just technology that we have access to. My big worry that quite frankly scares the bejesus out of me, is that children of today don’t have that life experience most of us parents have. The time before filters. Children don’t see Instagram, Snapchat, Facebook and all the others as a technological tool to be used for fun and creativity. They see filters as the standard, the target, the goal that they must achieve. There’s a filter called ‘Beauty Face’, it irradiates any blemishes you may have on your face and makes your skin look like one of them models on TV advertising moisturiser. I’ve used it and laughed that I’d make a great model….. I wouldn’t!

The major problem society has created, is that my daughters, your daughters in particular, but now more than ever also our sons, are seeing these blemish vanishing filters as the standard in which they must compare themselves to. It’s bullshit!! Is anyone real anymore? If you don’t look like Beckham or Taylor Swift (Beckham is unbelievable, Taylor was just a random pick) then you need a filter or people will realise you’re a troll. That’s the message that’s ‘filtering’ down to our children.

This is scary. Moving on further, I strongly believe kids today see so many happy, positive and filtered lives across social media, it makes it harder than ever to open up about any problems they’re going through. How can they ever speak to their friends about confidence issues they might have after posting a duck face pose with buttercups in their hair 5 seconds ago?! How would you go about opening up your insecurities to a friend that’s just hit 1K followers on Instagram?

 

How do kids converse with themselves in their own heads about anything? ‘I’m feeling a bit low because of stress from school tests and that girl said I was ugly. I can’t tell anyone though because I’ve looked on Facebook and I’ll be the only one that feels like this, everyone else is having a great time.’ – I’d imagine something along those lines.

I’m not saying everytime you feel stressed, take a photo of you looking like a bag of spanners and post it online telling the world to screw itself. I think the approach we need to take is purely to educate our children better. Tell children, show children and educate them that people online only share the good things, everyone at some stage feels like shit. Maybe don’t swear when explaining this though…. ๐Ÿ™‚

99% of the things I share online are either for work or about good times. Why not?! I don’t want to remember let alone share the time Corben was in hospital, or the time he had a reaction to nuts. I don’t want to show everyone I had a huge spot on my arse which effected how I sat down for 2 days…. You don’t want to see that, do you?

People can share what the hell they want on the internet, positive or negative. What we need to change, is not necessarily what’s put online but how our children view it.

What do you think? Any solutions? See you online…. @dadvworld

 

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19 thoughts on “Filtered Life

  1. Ha ha, no solutions, but I do worry for my kids’ future and the filtered way the world is presented to them. Then again, with me as a father, I will show them how filtered the world is. Glad you picked up on the issue of boys having body confidence issues. It’s a bigger and bigger problem.

    1. Thanks for reading John! Yes, it’s another growing concern for the children of today. Like there isn’t enough to worry about ๐Ÿ™ Yes it’s all about the parenting. Parenting is a tough gig, only getting harder! ๐Ÿ™‚

  2. A wonderful post, which I agree with. I think it’s quite frightening this whole ‘filter’ concept, how pretend perfection is painted all across media and social media by seemingly ‘normal’ people. I’d like to see more photos of people looking like ‘a bag of spanners’. I do think that educating more about this, and being more assertive and confident in ourselves (and teaching the next generation this incredibly difficult task) is important. Well written ๐Ÿ™‚ x

    1. Thank You for your kind words, genuinely appreciate it! Yes there is a lot of false content out there in the online world. For bags of spanners though check out my Instagram ๐Ÿ˜€

  3. Great post and so true! I cannot understand though with the advancement in technology why all the ‘vintage’ filters why would I want my photo look like it was taken in the 1950s!?

  4. Same. I love the techno world we live in and I love sharing it with my little one but I am very conscious to teach him to appreciate things and as he grows (he’s only two) I will try my hardest to teach him that he only needs to be happy. He doesn’t need to achieve the perfect ideal. He actually has a toy camera in the shape of an “old fashioned” camera and he holds it the wrong way round and pretends he’s doing selfies which kind of makes me sad. It’s only what he has learnt from me tho. We just have to be conscious of what we are doing around our children and then discuss with them what they are exposed to at a school and win the outside world I spose. Can’t turn back time. Aside from that, all move to the wild and live like we used to? ๐Ÿ˜œ

    1. That’s pretty funny! My lad knows when I need him to strike a pose for the blog and vlogs too. I wouldn’t worry about that bit, as long as we bring them up to understand all this tech and social media is just a tool. It’s a futuristic photo album really. I want to record and share our life to look back on in years to come. Hopefully we will win at parenting ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ˜€ Thanks for reading!!

      1. Me too. I wish I had more videos and pictures of the loved ones no longer here. That’s certainly something our children will never regret. As long as you teach them body confidence I suppose there’s not much more we can do. Oh I would love to win at parenting ๐Ÿ˜œ

        Thanks for writing โ˜บ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿผ

  5. Serious issues raised here, I certainly wouldn’t want to have been a teenager with all this stuff available. It’s mind blowing, but so important to stress as you rightly say to our kids that this is a side of life that isn’t real ..

    1. Thanks for reading and taking the time to comment Juliet. Yes, there’s tonnes of adults that don’t seem to grasp the concept of social media and how to use it sensibly so teaching kids is a huge task!!

        1. It’s a hugely useful tool. It’s having the mindset that, that is all it is, a tool. That’s a very head strong young woman you have there! You’re right younger ones are easily enticed into the nonsense of social media.

  6. Good words – saddening & scary isn’t it!
    Glad you mentioned both sexes, our teen lad is always worrying about how he looks/what he’s eaten/how big he is etc & our pre-teen daughter, who we have taught to be confident in herself & happy with who she is etc and to know social media is a tool/accessory not real life/necessity, is now at high school & gradually being worn down due to being ridiculed almost every day because she’s ‘different/weird’!
    It sucks! And genuinely worries me. Ironically, our eldest who is at uni, hardly engages in social media now unless she’s recording a special occasion, she’s had enough of it all! Haha! Perhaps there is hope? ๐Ÿ™‚

    1. Hi J. Yes it’s extremely saddening and scary! Unfortunately yet another incident has happened only yesterday. Can’t quite catch my breath. School is a very difficult place and the pressures children face are ridiculously hard. Different should be embraced not ridiculed, but that’s society today. You’re OK if you’re different in the way people want you to be, if that makes sense.

      Your eldest clearly has her head screwed on more than most! Thank you for reading ๐Ÿ™‚

  7. I completely get this post! It is bloody scary this “image” driven world we now live in. Who the eff cares if I have a spot or blemish… it means I had a great time eating that chocolate bar (OK I lie, it was two!). Thankfully my girls are not old enough to be in the social media world (yet) and I hope it calms the hell down before they do.

    P.S. Please never show that spot on your arse ok!?

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