For you, or for me?
Home educating. Is this crossing my mind once again because I’m selfish, I don’t want to put faith in anyone else to teach my child the correct way at his pace and the way I want. Or is it because as I explained in my last post ‘ School… Do I have to?’, I’m disenchanted by the education system on offer?
I’m not sure. Knowing myself though I’m positive whatever decision I make will have the boys best interests at heart. The thought of homeschooling does appeal to me. It appeals, the thought that I can be sure my child is being prepared for the real world at his own pace. The adventures I’ve already planned in my head are exciting and I even feel there’s a lot I could learn along the way.
Trips to different places, meeting new people, learning to cook, I could even get him involved with paying bills etc… Maybe when he’s 6-ish and old enough to get a part time in house job… 😀 You can see what I mean though. Every adventure would be educational and the time we’d get together as a family too would be great.
Then I delve deeper into it. He gets older, he will still need to be prepared for real exams, maths, science and all the things I’ve long forgotten! I stop for a second and think, well if I didn’t need them and have forgotten them, how important are they and isn’t that my point about education needing much improvement and new direction. I’ve not felt this 50/50 about something since being asked whether I prefer Doritos Chilli Heatwave or Walkers Worcester Sauce crisps!
I’ve made arguments for both options and presented them, to myself. I have obviously included the wife in this I don’t always discuss life changing decisions with the shower head. The argument to home educate is good and convincing. The argument for sending him to school is equally as good. I’ve spoken about personal family benefits and personalising an education for him to suit our preferences but, is this a disservice to him? Would I be missing out vital information by mistake, I’m no teacher. All the days out and adventures, surely I could and should be doing all that whether he’s at home or at school anyway! Our influence as parents too should override any others shouldn’t they? We can still teach him how to think for himself and give him confidence to question things.
Am I over thinking it? Can you over think decisions as big, I don’t think so. The whole grey area around home educating makes this even harder. As soon as I mention it to family members their reaction is exactly as mine was 5 years ago. ‘He’ll miss out on interaction with other kids’, ‘School provides vital character building’ all true. But after further investigation there’s a massive support network both locally and across the country. There’s activities daily for all home educated kids, more than you’d expect. I’ve spoken to several people who homeschool and they’ve all said they wouldn’t change it.
My reservations however are at the high school stage. Would I put him into high school to prepare for exams. At what level would he be at compared to the others? I hate that I even have to care what level he’d be at. The level made up by someone who was probably put through expensive private school anyway and hand fed their education to suit their requirements. Would starting school for the first time at high school level be a big ask, that age is difficult enough.
Then there’s the financial side of things. I could continue writing from home so that’s OK. Although as yet I don’t earn a wage from that. We have other business ideas we’re hoping to get off the ground over the next 12 months that would involve working from home too. Until then financially it could be tricky. But isn’t life always financially tricky.
I’d love to hear from parents that have experienced the entire cycle. From nursery to GCSE’s. There’s tonnes of YouTube videos but nothing like having an actual conversation.
Let me know your thoughts… Anyone else in my boat?