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Going Back To A ‘Normal’ Job

Going Back To A ‘Normal’ Job

January has been quite a dry month for us, in terms of income. One of the most difficult things about working for yourself is balancing finances to get through dry periods and not over-do it when the money is flowing.

Just before Christmas I was earning more than ever via the blog, but then Christmas came I had two weeks off and January has struggled to get going. It’s not just me, there’s been a lot of chat around some of the blogging groups I’m involved with and it appears most blogger inboxes have been left thin this month.

I had a long drive to Manchester and back yesterday to collect my sister from the airport and this drive gave me a little time to let my mind wonder.

This isn’t always a good thing…

As it wondered through blog ideas, tactics to grow the Youtube channel and all the usual stuff that occupies my mind, it also veered down the route of me having to go back to a ‘normal’ job. By normal I mean working for someone else, an office job like I’ve had before for example.

Immediately I gained an extra 4000% of energy to put into ideas to make my blog/social media job work better! The thoughts of having to go back into that world scared the bejesus out of me.

Don’t get your knickers in a twist, I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with having an office job etc I’m just speaking about my personal preferences and having worked for myself for the past year I would struggle massively to go back. It’s like once you’ve moved out of your parents home for the first time then after a year of that luxurious freedom having to go back and live under their roof with their rules and no more privacy.

The way our family dynamics are, I’m in a position where a normal full time job, 9-5 type of thing just wouldn’t work anyway. Donetta doesn’t drive and we live so far away from the kids school the bus is out of question meaning school runs aren’t going anywhere soon. FFS! Also home educating Corben requires lots of driving to meet-ups and days out etc, so again I have to be at home and available as often as possible.

Blogging, Vlogging, Social Media, Web Design and all the other pots I have my fingers in works perfectly around this lifestyle. I can be available to carry out all of these parental obligations as well as fit in still being able to work and earn money in between and from home.

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Back when I had to wear a tie :/

But let’s say I could be available to go back to a Mon-Fri, 9-5 office job, just for shits and giggles…

I wasn’t the best employee before, after a year of working exactly how, when and where I want I imagine I’d be even worse. I don’t mean I was always off sick or rubbish at my job by the way, I mean I questioned authority and ‘best practices’ often and we all know suits and ties don’t like that! I never did it because I wanted to be a dick, I just liked to think outside the box and explore options that could improve a service or policy.

In many office based jobs though you are to be a good little robot and just input those numbers, leave your initiative and ideas at the door. I know many work places are now better than this, however I’d bet the majority still prefer robot type employees that don’t give them any bother by questioning protocol.

So no, I couldn’t go back to that. I worked in sales and customer service for years and not only was it mainly boring, it was so restrictive and for all the wrong reasons. In one job I HAD to wear a tie. Why?! We rarely saw customers face-to-face and in the summer when it was over 30 degrees in the office making me wear a tie isn’t making me more productive at all, it makes me angry and more likely to thrown my PC through the window just to let in some air! Having to look a certain way, act a certain way etc just isn’t in my nature.

I truly believe if given the breathing room I need, I would be a much more productive and important member of any business. I have the essentials, work ethic, morals and I can talk. Like. Really. Talk. For ages. So in a sales and customer service role in particular I thrive. Then companies whack all these crazy restrictions on you and suffocate any personality you may have.

I’ve gone on a little rant here but it all backs up my answer how I pray I never have to get a ‘normal’ job ever again. Clearly if this all goes tits up and the last option is for me to go back to full time employment under someone else, then I’d have to for the family. I’d look to work in a phone shop I reckon or a place like CEX dealing with phones and tech all day, I’d like that.

For now though, with your help I’m smashing this blogging thing as hard as I can in the hope it continues to grow and becomes what I hope it can be in the near future.


I want to hear your thoughts

  • Are you in a job that suffocates your personality?
  • Are you finally free and doing your own thing?
  • Does your work place have any crazy rules you have to follow?

Let me know in the comments…

David @MrDavidShaul


PS. Please share and keep me from having to wear a tie again! ๐Ÿ™‚



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  1. 31st January 2018 / 1:09 pm

    I get what you mean. Whilst I am in an office job, it has served me well. Our firm has always been relatively laid back. The only “rule” we have is that everyone has to look tidy and respectable in front of clients. Here most men wear a shirt and tie, but I actually don’t know if that’s the dress code or if that’s their preference.

    I honestly can see you being a good employee though. We always welcome any ideas that will make it easier. So thinking outside the box is welcome! ๐Ÿ™‚

    And in answer to your questions, NO to all of them. I’m not free really as my idea of freedom is not having to work at all! But at least now I can do my own thing ๐Ÿ™‚ Thankfully my own thing is accountancy and tax!! ๐Ÿ˜€

    • DadvWorld
      31st January 2018 / 1:43 pm

      It’s great that you’re doing a job you like. This post is more aimed at people that are in jobs they hate… Most people I’d guess unfortunately. In my humble opinion I was a great employee, I always worked hard because I naturally want to be good at what I do and improve things. Ultimately though, if I’m not interested or invested in the project or product etc I can’t hide it and won’t thrive at all. Left to my own devices over the last couple of years I’m more self aware than ever and I reject things that don’t interest me even more now. I can see why accountants would dress smartly as its a serious and important job. What I was doing was via phone and email meaning no-one saw me anyway and if you turned up to my house in PJs as my accountant I wouldn’t care along as you did the job I was paying you for ๐Ÿ™‚ – Probably don’t have breakfast down the front of you though, I’d probably look elsewhere. ๐Ÿ™‚

  2. 31st January 2018 / 1:30 pm

    At the danger of writing yet another reply that could be a blog post in itself, here goes….
    I have worked since I was 16, 4 years in a laboratory and after that and ever since in an office IT environment. I enjoy my job, but I also enjoy LOTS of other things.
    I’ll tackle the good old “dress code” issue now. Am I better at my job as an IT manager if I am sat wearing a shirt & tie rather than jeans and a t-shirt? No. Simple answer. I remember when I first challenged this at a company I’d been at for a while. Once day I just turned up in jeans and polo shirt. I wasn’t looking scruffy but it was in the smart/casual category. I got some funny looks from the top the employee food chain to the bottom – but no-one ever spoke to me about it and I just carried on. I even started having my own dress-down Friday by replacing the polo shirt with a t-shirt that often had a slogan on, and replaced boots with trainers. Again, nobody spoke to me. In fact, people started to follow suit! In the end I worked there for a further 6 years! For me, ties are an outdated item of clothing – having said that I do like the feeling of dressing super smart to go to a wedding.
    A few years ago I decided to take my love of photography to the next level and started a business in my spare time doing family portraits and eventually weddings. Most weekend (especially in the summer) I was working then back to the Mon-Fri job. Not great when you have kids. H did the editing through the week and that was her job. We were doing quite well and would have liked to take it full-time but were caught in the trap of needing the security of income (provided by the day job) and not having enough free time to grow the income (because of the day job). Then I was offered the chance to move to the country for a new job and change all out lives – I took it and with that we killed the photography business there and then. I need to 100% focus on the new jobs and building it up from scratch in a new area would have taken time I didn’t have. I often look back and wonder if I could have done things differently but we’ll never know now. I’m starting to itch for shooting weddings again, I loved it. I loved the pressure I was under, I loved building rapport with clients and their guests, I loved the editing. We are shooting my nieces wedding later this year in Kos as a favour/gift – I think that will ignite the flame again.
    Then there is writing and blogging. I love it but never considered it to be an income source (well maybe the book – eventually!). I still don’t with the blog but again you just never know.
    Stick to your guns and do what you want/need and is best for you and your family.

    • DadvWorld
      31st January 2018 / 2:08 pm

      I need to start booking in a day each week to read your comments. HA! Genuinely appreciate your input mate ๐Ÿ™‚ – I think we’re on the same page. My argument was always that how I dress does not effect my ability or work ethic one bit. The place I refer to were always jumping on us over our dress code, it was more of an issue than the business losing money some weeks, pathetic. I’ve knocked out some of my highest paid blog posts naked in the bath… Take a second to imagine that if you wish, but it backs up the fact to do my job my clothing is irrelevant. I agree with getting dressed up for weddings and other similar events, that’s a matter of respect for me. You’re making that extra effort as a sign of respect to the occasion and people involved. I wore jeans on my wedding day, they were black but I prefer them to trousers and they still looked really smart. If you’re heart is swaying towards photography, you should 100% pursue it however you can. Whether that be as a hobby, slowly build up a few freelance bits of work or jack in the entire IT job and go all in! Not that easy when you’re a grown up though the last suggestion. ๐Ÿ™‚

      • 31st January 2018 / 2:10 pm

        Yup! Being a grown up stinks!

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