I Don’t Want To Be A Dad Blogger Anymore?

I Don’t Want To Be A Dad Blogger Anymore?

DadvWorld.com and my DadvWorld social media platforms are going well. In fact this month the blog has done better than ever before and there’s still a week of April left to go!

But, what if I don’t want to be a ‘Dad’ blogger anymore?

Before we start, this is literally one big ramble! Bare with me…

I think 99% of bloggers reading this post that have been blogging for more than 5 minutes will understand this blogger wobble. It’s happening more and more for me at the moment and I want to talk about it as I highly doubt this is isolated to only myself.

I know many bloggers that are on their second, third, fourth or even fifth blogs. Some even more! It’s not unlikely for your first attempt at something to not be where you end up. DadvWorld was my very first attempt at blogging and over 2 years later it’s still going strong, stronger than ever before actually. I’ve veered off a few times to try my hand at something new or different and very nearly closed down DadvWorld altogether a while back, read more on that HERE. I then made a U-Turn which you can read about HERE.

Other projects have been and gone and I’ve learned so much with each of them meaning none of them hold regrets at all. DadvWorld however has stuck around and is finally where I wanted it to be. Actually it’s brought more than I ever expected when I first started as I didn’t ever really have a plan on where to take it or how. As I have evolved as a blogger and become much more experienced in this field, so has the blog. From free products to review, to ‘big‘ money brand collaborations. I highlight ‘big‘ as it’s such a relative term in the blogging industry, £50 was big money 2 months in for me and I’ve now worked on projects involving hundreds. Again, some bloggers work for thousands, then tens of thousands. I’m content with what I’ve achieved and who I’ve worked with over a two year period knowing absolutely JACK about blogging when I began.

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This sounds a bit like a farewell post doesn’t it, I should maybe address this… I’m not going anywhere! DadvWorld holds so many memories and recorded emotions throughout my journey through fatherhood, I don’t imagine ever stopping. I guess I’ll have to give it some extra thought once the kids are all grown up and moved out, maybe next year?! HA! I’ve given so much time to my blog and I’ve poured many emotions into a lot of my posts that it would be almost criminal to stop now.

What I do want to discuss though is that I do have one niggle about my blog. The fact I called it ‘Dad‘ vWorld. I’m clearly a DAD blogger and although I’m not limited to discussing Dad only topics, my brand is of the Dad niche. Without reading any of my posts people are obviously going to assume immediately that I’m a dad blogger and that was the idea when I started.

Two years later though and I’m not sure whether I want to be labelled straight away as only a dad blogger. I’ve spent a lot of time in the dad blog scene and quite frankly, I’m not that arsed! I’ve come across all the different types, those that have ‘made it’ and are now up their own arse, the cliques that involve a lot of arse kissing and brown nosing, excitable new dad bloggers that sap all the information they can get from you and then disappear or worse, continue in the same circles but ignore you and bitchy dads. Stereotypes tell us that gaggles of women are where bitchiness is at it’s worst, I can put that to bed right now. Some of the dad groups I’ve been in are full of it! I try to be a positive person as much as I can as often as possible, but sometimes I would come across conversations that were nothing more than jealousy and suddenly a cloud of negativity would come over me. I didn’t like that obviously so I’ve made an effort to distance myself from anything that gives me a negative vibe. Facebook and Twitter are in need of a cull from my end and it’s something I want to press on with.

I must stress this is only a small section, there are many more dad bloggers that are full of positive energy and are genuinely engaging, many of which I interact with as often as possible. I used to think I was alone with this feeling that the particular groups and circles I’ve been engaging with since starting my blog have become this way. But, after a few conversations with others it would appear I’m not the only one that’s noticed a change in the online dad community.

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I imagine this is something that the mums have already gone through. The dad blogging community has always been a lot smaller and despite still being much smaller than the mum community, it has grown massively over the last 12 months in particular. I think with it’s growth there are now many more personalities, opinions and competition. Competition being the thing that has added to the negativity in my opinion. I think there’s work for us all and there are unlimited opportunities for the foreseeable future, quality content will be what shines through as we all move forward in the blogging industry.

It’s some of these points that has taken the shine off being a dad blogger, at least for me I mean. If a handful of us have noticed, it wouldn’t surprise me if others within and on the outside will too and I want no part in being labelled.

I try to be as honest as I can as often as possible, I mean I’m always honest but obviously there are some things I hold back, not everything is for you nosey gets! It would seem as of late however, there’s a lot of bullshit knocking around. Whether that being rubbish advice given from older bloggers to newer bloggers, jealousy being spread and rubbing off on others forming cliques of nobheads or just dishonest people out for only themselves.

It would be massively naive to think the blogging industry is full of lovely helpful people and doesn’t have the odd snake in the grass, it certainly does. A majority are really helpful, honest and genuine, a vast majority, try to find out those bloggers and engage/befriend them. Try not to get involved in the mum bloggers versus dad bloggers tattle, quite honestly I don’t think any of the mums have even given the dads side a second thought, they’re too busy dominating their own niche. I think there’s confusion over the fact that society still has mums as the superior parent and now a few dad bloggers see it as dads versus mums in the blogging world, it can create toxic environments.

Much of what we’ve discussed here has been on my mind for a good while and I’m glad I’ve got this off my chest now, even if in a rambled format.

I’d love to know your thoughts, am I seeing things that aren’t there, talking shite or have you noticed a change in the dad blogging community too?

 

On another note, I won’t just be DadvWorld – Dad Blogger soon, Donetta and I will be launching DavidandDonetta.co.uk VERY SOON! We’re really excited about this and using just our names will give us the licence to take our content wherever our interests take us. We won’t be pigeon-holed into one specific niche and that really excites me.

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21 thoughts on “I Don’t Want To Be A Dad Blogger Anymore?”

  • We’re totally new to the blogging world and sad to hear this… but will take heed of it! Will certainly be following you & Donetta! You’re definitely one the really helpful & interesting ones so thank you! (Not trying to sound kissy arse or anything haha

    • I believe this is the “a lot of arse kissing and brown nosing” that David was referring to!

      Joking of course!

      In all fairness, I think this is one of the better Dad blog’s out there from all the ones I’ve read!

    • Hahaha! Nothing wrong with a little honest motivation and appreciation! i’m appreciative and thankful for your kind words! Still do dive in, 95% of the blogging world are awesome people 🙂

  • I agree with a lot of this David. I must say I’m glad I haven’t noticed a lot of cliques or too much snobiness on my journey. Or I’ve seen it and side stepped it. The drama llama isn’t my thing. I take everyone at face value until proven otherwise. I just put my head down and try to as much fun as possible.

    Whatever you do I’m sure you’ll come up smelling of roses though 😉

    • Thank you mate. I’ll still be planning dad blog domination, why not aye! I am excited about having a second venture though too. I never get directly involved with it but can’t not notice some of the things I’ve seen. The internet is full of mis-interpretations. Keep doing your thing mate, you’re smashing it!

  • So true David, although I feel I’ve been lucky and “fallen into the right crowd” of dad bloggers and bloggers in general on social media. Maybe because I’m part time and it’s more of a hobby than a business to me.

    I also agree about being tied down to one niche. When I started, I must of had this impression that me and my children would never getting older and there would be a never ending river of content to write and record. It wasmt until a few weeks ago I started my second YouTube channel which would free me from the “dad” niche!

    Well written my friend as always.

    • Ah thank you mate, so thankful for your kind words! Yes, things do evolve quickly don’t they. I think there is a difference from a perspective point of view when your blogging as a hobby or an extra, or blogging as a full time business. I know who you speak with online, the right crowd comment is debatable… 🙂

  • I have been blogging since 2004 and this is an old conversation that pops up every so often.

    People decide there are cliques and the conversation goes in a circle about whether they should be upset or indifferent.

    It is no different online than anywhere else. You’ll like some, dislike others and be ambivalent about most.

  • I’m one of the newbie bloggers having started out last June. Mine is still very much a personal hobby and as such I’m only on the blog and twitter at the moment which I enjoy. I’ve no idea about Dad groups and the politics around them and perhaps it’s best I keep it that way judging by your post and others I’ve read in the past. Your positive energy always shines through – keep that up!

    • Hi Neil, thank you for your kind words I genuinely appreciate them! Most of the groups can be extremely useful, especially in the early days to gather as much information and support as you can. If you’ve already found your little online community of friends though then stick with the lads you know, 95% are great people! How are you anyway mate? 🙂

  • Great post Dave. I can relate to feeling disillusioned with the niche sometimes but remedy that by taking the rough with the smooth. I try to stay consistent with my posts and feel great when I get one posted. Creatively and as an outlet one of the most rewarding things I’ve ever done is start a blog/brand.
    I try to use my personal twitter to moan about politics and my football team (Sunderland!) By that token, I need to engage with other dad bloggers using my blog twitter more as well. Here’s hoping I’m not one of the nobs.

  • I totally get where you’re coming from with this post. I’ve struggled to keep motivated with my blog. I’ve restarted it on numerous occasions trying to get that right ‘feel’.

    More recently I’ve been put off by being a member of a dad bloggers group on Facebook and some of the dads there couldn’t make it any more obvious that they’re only in it for the money and they only want to talk to dads that have made lots of money from blogging or that can help them to make more money.

  • I think it’s great there are more dad bloggers/vloggers out there and that the content is becoming more diverse. Dads and mums have different takes on things which is why I think it’s great to read both sides!

    Just discovered this blog, but looking forward to reading more and watching your new youtube channel.

    Katie xx
    http://www.amikatie.com

  • I’ve seen a few of these sort of posts from the more established bloggers. It’s very interesting to see the evolution of a blog, I’m just starting out and I really don’t know where to take it or what I’m doing with it. One thing I know it takes a lot of work which I often don’t have time to do. I’m seriously impressed with your work David, keep it up, looking forward to the new project.

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