I got a notification through today that someone had liked a tweet of mine from a year ago. The tweet related to a post I wrote almost a year to the day ago, Don’t Be Perfect, Be Real.
I’ll be honest, I’d completely forgotten I wrote this. I read through the post (if I don’t who will!) and shocked myself at how relevant I thought it still was for me personally in life today. I spoke about not striving for perfection in parenting because it simply doesn’t exist. I wrote about being realistic and accepting your life won’t ever be ‘perfect’. Once you let go of that warped impression of how parenting should look, you’ll be surprised at how drastically your perception of perfection changes.
The message I wanted to get across in this post written a whole year ago, was that being real is the ticket to a much happier fulfilled life.
Once I’d finished reading through the post I started to think, have I kept it real since, and to this day? Daft question really, all I bang on about is keeping it real… Not in an Ali G way though, I’m not keen on Yellow tracksuits.
I base my whole DadvWorld Blog and social media content on being real. Not glossed over or filtered to seem better, just plain real. I’ve written several posts of a similar nature since this one in question, mainly A Filtered Life that again looks at how social media is life with a huge filter over it, which can in turn play a negative impact on people not feeling good enough or fulfilled.
It’s all just bollocks.
I think a load more people have emerged in this past year that are flying the flag for unfiltered, real parent life. Its fantastic to see. I’m no idiot, there’s a long way to go yet to lessen and one day eradicate the number of people being impacted negatively on a daily basis via other people’s seemingly perfect lives.
I’m not sold on the notion that everyone must be overly real. Posting videos of your children in an emotional moment, marital disputes being shared and other private moments don’t all need to be declared. I’m all for people sharing positivity and editing photo’s is a hobby of mine, I like them to look visually pleasing for myself more than anyone else. It’s all a choice, people can share as little or as much as they please.
I think the major change required is a huge shift in mindset. I think people sharing the more real moments and the parent fails they experience will go towards changing mindsets to knowing that a 10 minute vlog of someone’s day is nowhere near the whole story and an instagram photo tells only your own perception of another persons photo, not the actual story.
I posted a photo of my desk the other week looking, in my opinion, absolutely awesome! I then filmed for our vlog the absolute shit tip the rest of the office was in whilst I was having a reshuffle.
Once we all accept that social media is a highlights reel of someone’s life with a splash of getting it all wrong, we will all benefit with more enjoyment rather than being envious.
I’d like to think throughout my time so far in the blogging world, I’ve splashed a little realism into the mix. With help from a good few others that are too keeping it real, I hope it helps towards a shift in mindset and the perception you have of ‘perfection’.
The rise in Vloggers on YouTube and Instagram Storytellers is having a huge positive impact in sharing the real side of parenting. I’m witnessing loads more parent fails and real life moments that emphasise the message I’m trying to spread and reinforce the fact that as a parent, I’m doing alright.
We’re all in this parenting, social media driven world together.
Here’s to another year of keeping it real…
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