I’m a Dad, a husband, a man. Sometimes I want a few pick me up compliments too please.
I’m not saying I don’t, before any of you go running to tell Donetta HA!
Today I treated myself to a haircut, I say treated because I can go months without one. I wear caps, a lot. Not only a new mop chop but I picked up a new shirt too in an attempt to be more ‘summer ready’. Just a short sleeved white shirt that looks pretty smart as well as being thin to keep me cool, nothing over the top.
So swanning around with my new do and shirt, I felt pretty good. Yes, I put my new shirt on there and then because it was much cooler than the one I had on already, cooler as in temperature, it was a hot day. Add to this my new shades I don’t mind saying I looked pretty awesome, in the humblest of ways. Many of you that know me, know that I rarely care too much about how I look, I’m a basic kind of guy.
Now and again though, usually after a trip to the barbers I feel brand new. I always find it funny how a haircut can effect your mood and outlook for the better, or is that just me? I genuinely get a boost of energy and positivity after having my mop chopped.
With all of this in mind we’ve established I’m feeling good. I’m going to assume I’m not alone in these situations, I bet you have these days where you feel good too right? I’m all for not giving zero shits what others think, I generally don’t. As long as I feel good about myself then other people are irrelevant. Although, now and again on days like the day I’m telling you about now, the only thing that could increase further the positive energy I have is someone else noticing and commenting.
A little compliment from Donetta obviously goes a long way, she’s my wife. The only exception to the ‘giving zero shits’ rule is Donetta, I do care about what she thinks. If she notices a little extra effort or a change in direction with the hair on my head and drops a little compliment it means a lot.
I think it’s well known that the majority of women like compliments. I don’t mean sleazy weird ones on Instagram from fake male accounts, just normal ones to let you know you look nice, I’ve noticed your hairs different etc. I’m not generalising, everyone likes compliments and everyone should both give and receive them, for no reason other than because it’s nice.
Although, being a male I do sometimes feel like it’s not as common practice to have compliments put my way as it is for a female. Is this because women paying other women compliments is much more ‘natural’ than it is for men to do so to other men? Maybe. It’s not uncommon for female friends to boost each others morale with plenty of compliments on one anothers make-up, outfit or shoes. If I met up with my male friends and they started wowing over my outfit selection and asking which product I had in my hair something would feel a little weird about that.
IT SHOULDN’T THOUGH!
I’ve posted a couple of photos on Instagram of my refreshed looking self and had many positive comments from both males and females and it does feel good. I’m not purposefully looking for any validation or attention, I don’t need that, but having friends off or online dropping a little compliment feels nice.
It all just got my brain ticking as things often do and here we have this post full of my thoughts.
I’ve come to the conclusion that men do need little pick-me-up comments just as much as women do. It’s nice to tell a woman her new hair colour suits her and that her eye-brows are on fleek (Don’t ever actually say that, it’s added for humour purposes only!) but it’s equally important to tell the men their short back and sides looks on point too 🙂
What do you think? If you’re a man, are you getting enough love, if you’re a woman are you giving enough love? Let’s all make a little more effort to boost each others morale, compliments are not only for those of David Beckham-esque looks, there’s nothing wrong with being an average-joe with a new hair cut, shirt and shades…
…unless I do genuinely look like shit, then do raise that with me please! HA!
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