Mothers are naturally seen as the superior nurturer for their children, FACT.
Dads are still fighting for equality when it comes to the social acceptance that Dads are indeed every bit as capable as Mums. There are Dads out there, including myself, that can match that ‘love of a mother’ in every single sense.
I’m the stay at home parent in my family and my wife will tell you I’m as hands on as it gets. I do everything, in partnership with my wife.
There’s a long way to go for Dads to be seen as equals to Mums, for me it’s bewildering that we’re in 2016 where you can do a full weekly shop from your phone, fly drones in the sky and even order a Russian bride online from your sofa, apparently… Yet I tell someone I’m a stay at home Dad and they look at me like I’m an alien! Women do all the hard work for the first 9 months obviously, there’s no argument there. Then if you decide to breast feed, they have to take that part on too, that’s nature. Other than that someone please tell me what then is the difference between a Mother and a Father that means Mothers are superior in someway? NOTHING.
I can tell you my thoughts on why Dads aren’t yet according to society, on the same pedestal as that of a Mum. Far too many men use the option they have to walk away from their children. Whether it be a one-night-stand or an early relationship or whatever, once the pregnancy test shows positive the male is offered several options that are much easier than the ones presented to the female. The woman has to decide whether she’s keeping the baby which will change her life and after a certain timescale has no turning back and no get-out clause regardless of which option the man takes. Or she has to decide if she wants to abort what is a life growing inside of her. The man on the other hand decides whether he stays and becomes a Dad, or leaves and runs for the hills, after all there isn’t anything growing inside of his body so there is a way out. It’s these men that are taking the second option that are letting down the Dad population. Now listen carefully when I say this, THESE ‘MEN’ ARE NOT DADS, THEY AREN’T RUNNING AWAY BECAUSE THEY’RE RUBBISH DADS, THEY’RE RUNNING BECAUSE THEY’RE ABSOLUTE WASTES OF OXYGEN.
Women don’t have that option during the initial period, obviously the kids inside them. I know that there are mothers out there that once the child has been born have then left or have been useless and not worthy of calling themselves parents, but how many compared to men that take the easier option from minute one and run away from their responsibility. That’s why Mothers are seen by society as superior to Fathers.
This is massively unfair on the real men, us Dads that are doing what should be the only option that enters our minds, nurturing, growing and building our children and being there every step of the way. I think Dads will continue fighting for more leverage, things such as changing facilities, paternity leave and parental rights within the law are already improving. For me though, I don’t ever see there being equality. It’s far too easy to make a life and until soo many men stop taking that easy option, how can we ever battle against that?
What do you think?
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