You see, how I’ve been brought up is that whatever your Dad says goes really, even when you’re an adult there’s this natural control built through respect that your Dad always knows best.
Then I became a Dad thus meaning surely now I know best? I suppose this scenario is quite similar to when you’re very young and you think your Dad is Superman, then you hit your teens and you’re as tall as him, so start challenging him in some sort of masculine stand off. Of course that phase only lasts a short while because Dads are indeed Supermen and you quickly realise you’re out of your depth. Then continues the respectful knowing that Dad does know best and is indeed a lot stronger than you in arm wrestles! Maybe at the point of becoming a Dad you’re back to that teenage stage, you more than likely inadvertently challenge your own Dads methods. I mean every generation wants their children to have an improved childhood to their own don’t they, the world is evolving and so should the opportunities for new generations.
There’s a few things I’ve purposely taken from my own upbringing and decided they won’t happen now I’m the leader of my own pack. I’m sure there’s other things that I do that are completely opposite to what my Dad would have done too, but that’s more because of a change in society than anything else. When I was a kid, all I remember wanting was my Dad to play Championship Manager with me, I’d even let him be Everton. He did this of course but as a kid I couldn’t understand why it was only now and again he could play. It was of course because he was being a parent, he was going to work everyday to put food on the table and pay the bills. It’s only now I have my own kids I truly appreciate how difficult it would have been to fulfill my wishes. I don’t actually remember a great deal if I’m honest, I don’t know why that is, my memory must be useless. I have little snippets now and again of being a kid but in large, someone would need to prompt a memory from me rather than them appearing on their own.
So now I’m busy being a Dad, one that’s lucky enough to have the opportunity to stay at home to play all day, well most of it! Maybe we now know why that is, one day I hope to have 72 hour non-stop sessions of Football Manager (This is what Championship Manager is now called) with Corben!! I’m lucky to be parenting in today’s world. In the mid 80’s to early 00’s the opportunities to work from home, blog, vlog, manage social media etc just weren’t even a thing, they didn’t exist. So of course my Dad had to leave me and go to work, I however can now work from home at times that suit our family. The world has evolved allowing parenting to do the same.
Is there anything you do purposely different to your own parents? Let me know…
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