A stay-at-home dad (alternatively, stay at home father, house dad, SAHD, househusband, or house-spouse) is a father who is the main caregiver of the children and is the homemaker of the household. – Wikipedia
Sounds like an important role to have doesn’t it? However if you translate this into modern day 2016 perceptions it means…
A stay-at-home dad is a male parent that either can’t be bothered to get a job or is out of work currently but has kids so adopts the term SAHD to pretend he does something as opposed to nothing.
I’ve used this term before and was quite excited about becoming a SAHD, however recently both the perceptions of the term and inaccuracy of the actual term have started bugging me. I mean, I’m a Dad but I don’t just stay at home, I’m a ‘full time’ blogger and I create YouTube videos which I am sometimes paid to do. I also wash dishes and tidy up. The perceptions I mean in particular are those mainly of people that have a ‘Full-time job’, as in they get paid by someone to go to a place of work away from their house. I have to explain that part because as we know, being a SAHD isn’t really work… Not everyone has these opinions but plenty do. They say things like ‘I’m a full time parent and have a full time job on the side’.
Well done you! However, that’s not really being a full time parent is it? I mean your children aren’t with you for about 40 hours of the week. Now don’t get me wrong, most people have to go to work and earn money to live their lives how they wish and I’m in no way saying that you’re any less of a parent because you spend 40 hours a week somewhere else, certainly not my intentions, however in turn stay at home parents don’t want to be seen as inferior because they don’t juggle parenting with a full time place of work and that is exactly how some of those people view Stay at Home Parents.
I’m extremely lucky, we have found ourselves in a position where my wife can work long hours meaning less days per week, so more time at home. I can then spend time working from home on the days she’s at home too. Being able to work from home is probably the ultimate job situation, I can start and finish whenever I want meaning Corben has as much time with me as he wants throughout the day. He starts school in a couple of weeks so I guess then the term SAHD definitely becomes redundant because for a few hours during the day there will be no-one home to parent!
Being a parent is the single most rewarding and important job you can ever have. Whether you do it by staying at home playing, teaching and developing your child all day everyday, stay at home splitting play with a little laptop time or by going to a place of work whilst your children are taken care of by school or childminders, we’re all doing what we think is best for our families.
There are many different situations families can find themselves in, let’s not judge people based on made up titles.
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