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Swearing, who gives a shit?

Swearing, who gives a shit?


Well apparently 66% of people that voted on this very subject the other day.

This has had me swaying back and forth like I’m at a Westlife concert. OK, so you’re thinking ‘WHAT, 66% of people think swearing is bad?!’

What if I now asked you about swearing in front of your kids?

Gets your mind ticking over doesn’t it. Your immediate reaction is to tell me of course it’s wrong to swear in front of your children… But why?

This seems to be a hot topic at the moment so I thought I’d jump on the band-wagon to try and boost my blogging status in amongst the powerhouses already talking about this topic. I mean, I wanted to have my say :/


For the first time in my blogging history, instead of just bashing my keyboard and waiting to see what happens, I’ve actually read and listened to a few things regarding this topic and found them fascinating. My good friend Nigel at DIY Daddy Blog wrote Swearing In Front Of Our Children where he explains his point of view that ‘I for one think it’s totally unacceptable’. Go read Nigel’s post for the full perspective on his point of view, don’t use this one sentence to form a response. Nigel makes some very good points and I’d suggest has a similar opinion to the vast majority of society.

To continue with the trend of name dropping my celebrity blogging mates, Harriet a.k.a Toby & Roo wrote a very different point of view on her Instagram – Let’s talk about the F-Bomb. Harriet says ‘I’d rather my kid said shit than hit’. Again, go read the full post before making your mind up based on one extract. Harriet also appeared on Good Morning Britain to discuss this topic, we watched it and made a couple of comments in our daily vlog Swearing In Front Of Your Kids.

I should say, I’m in no way pitting these two people against each other, only the points of view. I follow both Nigel and Harriet’s content and seeing such different points of view sparked my mind into action and questioned my own perspective on swearing in front of children.

As mentioned earlier, 66% of people that took part in an online poll said that swearing in front of children is not acceptable. However, I wonder what the result would be if the question was ‘Have you’ as opposed to ‘Should you’. I’d imagine there would have been a very different response. Does this make the case of ‘no you shouldn’t‘ weaker if you then go and do it?

That’s where I’d slip up.

My natural instinct would be that swearing in front of my kids is wrong. However I then have to question myself as to why I have done it, a lot. Then taking a minute to think further about this, I’m a big believer in questioning EVERYTHING! I always tell my kids to question things. Just because something has always been, doesn’t mean it always will be, times change.

So when, where and how did the word SHIT become offensive? Also, the word has now evolved over time to have several meanings, not all offensive. The same goes for many other ‘offensive’ words. Is it the words that are offensive or the manner in which they are spoken? Swearing in front of and at your children are also very different things. You’re walking up the stairs and stub your toe, ‘Ah shit’. Is that really offensive? On the other hand, there are many other words that aren’t classed as swearing that you could use in this instance instead of shit.

This subject really has me questioning things.

So, is vagina a swear word? If not can children use this in public? What about penis? Let’s set a realistic scene… I’m at the park with Corben, he’s 4. Something in his curious, wondrous mind compels him to tell another child and/or parent he has a willy and mummy has a fluff. (I just made that up on the spot under pressure to make my point!) A little boy saying ‘willy’ and ‘fluff’ is quite funny, cute and would most likely have other present parents laughing. What if he decided to tell them he has a penis and Mummy has a vagina, what reaction would he and mainly I get then? An eye-brow raise minimum.

Another key element is age. Should swear words be held off until children are old enough to at least understand the concept of how and when they change from being another word to offensive? Is there an argument that they will hear them from a young age at school or other places that they converse with other children anyway, so it might be better to teach them the words and how they could/should be used more responsibly ie: Not in an offensive manner?

I’ll be honest, a part of me wrote this so I could figure out exactly where I stand on this but, in truth I don’t stand anywhere. There are too many variables to consider for me to decide whether I’m in camp ‘Fuck it, it’s fine’ or camp ‘It’s unacfuckingceptable’. <Sorry, I’ve written that now it’s staying in.

How offensive are certain words. What makes SHIT less offensive than C**T? See I daren’t even write that properly, but why?!

I think I do lean more towards the thought that words are just that, words. It’s how you use them that determines their power. For instance, if I call Donetta a dickhead during an argument, she’ll not even hear it. If I called her ugly that would sting, not only her feelings but my actual face after being slapped silly! (This has never happened by the way, not since… 😀 ) I could make everyday acceptable words hurt much more than swear words ever could. Although I guess that’s another subject isn’t it? That’s more about being plain horrid to another person which isn’t acceptable using any type of words.

Swearing and respect is the last point I’d like to make on this. I think they are closely linked. For instance, I respect that although I may swear in front of my child from time to time, this doesn’t mean the parent on the bus with their child does. You have to respect that. Also, my Nanna does not like swearing, her reasons don’t matter because I just need to respect that in her presence it’s not acceptable to her.

My take on this then is that, I can’t say it’s not acceptable to swear in front of your children, because I’ve done it and will do it again. I also don’t think it’s always OK to do it and for children to use such language either. I’m somewhere in the middle. I don’t think the odd swear word at home will do any harm and I do think as a parent I have a responsibility to arm my children with as much knowledge of outside influences as I can, so they can in turn make better decisions on how to acknowledge and use this type of language.

I’m not actually sure any of this has made sense, I’ve kind of slung around a load of thoughts in no particular order hoping you will take something away from this that’s beneficial. If not, F-OFF! 🙂

I’d love to hear your thoughts, apologies to anyone that finds swearing offensive my usual posts aren’t quite as riddled, but the clue was in the title…








  1. 2nd August 2017 / 6:03 am

    I am a swearer especially in the presence of my Mam. When we talk the f-bomb is used pretty much every sentence! It’s just part of how we talk and not intended to be offensive.

    However I am able to filter my swearing. So I don’t tend to swear at work and speaking to people.

    Yes I swear in front of my children. I try to reign it in and I don’t actively encourage them to say it – as opposed to my Mam who’s trying to teach the littlest how to say fucking hell. (She has said it and it was cute!!). So I don’t care if they grow up to be sweaters so long as they know when to switch it off.

    But the crucial thing as you mentioned is, there’s a difference between swearing in front of and swearing at. Swearing at people is unacceptable. Swearing in front of is fine.

    • DadvWorld
      2nd August 2017 / 8:47 am

      I’m loving this, the comments we’re getting across social are splitting this one right down the middle. Some are dead against and some, like yourself don’t mind. I find it so fascinating. I suppose your point plays into @ThisRealLifeDad ‘s comment too, he mentions it’s probably about your upbringing. Obviously your Mum swore in front of you and in turn you’re OK with it. Also, you’re a partner of a company so it’s clearly not hindered you and you still have the ability to filter it which supports my point on respecting others. Thank you for reading and commenting, appreciated as always 🙂

  2. 2nd August 2017 / 8:15 am

    My opinion for whats it’s worth is; swearing is not nice to hear from anyone or at any time, whether It’s to a kid or an adult. Probably as that’s how our been brought up.

    Swearing is probably used in two ways; either to be descriptive and not meant to be offensive to anyone, or it’s used to be hurtful and chosen ONLY to be very offensive to someone.

    Either way in my opinion swearing is not nice or necessary. If you swear daily as a habit or to add effect, why bother when it’s easily avoided by the use of different words.
    If you swear, or say something hurtful, only with the effect to be nasty, then everyone knows that’s wrong and probably only said through anger.

    What makes this topic so interesting in my opinion is because we are all adults, we should all know right from wrong, but we’ve all been taught differently by or parents or peers making nobodies opinion less right or wrong.
    So really what it all comes down to is respect, hopefully, even if you swear daily you still have respect for everyone and are nice people and the exact same goes for the people who don’t swear daily.

    • DadvWorld
      2nd August 2017 / 8:40 am

      Thanks for reading and taking the time to comment 🙂 Yes, respect is a must for me in all walks of life, if you have respect for others then you won’t go far wrong. I think upbringing plays a huge part of course, it’s where a large part of our idealisms on life are built. I’m still just so intrigued by why these certain letters formed together are wrong, who decided which words were good and which were bad and why… So interesting! Thanks again, really appreciate you getting involved 🙂

      • 2nd August 2017 / 9:08 am

        I couldn’t tell you, most likely just older words based on old outdated views or meanings. I’m guessing most words that are perceived to be ‘wrong’ have been used in a horrible, derogatory way in the past, hence making them now deemed inappropriate. Just like some words we say now that are deemed okay might change meaning, perception or use and then making those words also ‘wrong’ for some to say.
        Love a topic that get people talking were there is no right or wrong answers, just different opinions.

        • DadvWorld
          2nd August 2017 / 9:13 am

          That’s it mate! Different views, opinions all aired in a sensible adult manner 🙂 Althought I’m still waiting for someone to call me a swear word for not thinking it’s unacceptable to swear in front of your children HAHA!

  3. 9th October 2017 / 10:25 am

    Tricky. I think I wrote a post on it too. The first reaction to a kid swearing is to scold them, but why? For me, and my never ending ‘F Society and it’s constraints’, swearing, or lack of, is about control. It’s not polite, it’s not lady like, it’s not smart – all of which is enough to make me scream the C word from the hills.

    It’s a form of expression, granted it could cause offense and we must respect other peoples eyes and ears, but to curb an expression as it’s not seen as ‘nice’ won’t wash with me. At the same time I don’t want my 2yo Fing and blinding about the place- like her mother. I won’t scold my child for it, unless she is using it to cause harm or in anger – to which I will address the temper and not the word. The reason I don’t want her doing it, is it’s been drilled into me that it’s not nice to hear. And I’m not prepared to defend my swearing child in front of traditional grandparents, or even her father.

    To say some one is unintelligent or has a poor upbringing due to their language is disgusting and prejudice. I won’t dampen down my language if someone is judging, if they are horrifically offended, that’s another matter. Scolding my child for saying ‘oh god’ or ‘b**ch’ because you ‘don’t like it’ is not on. We need to question why these words offend us so much, words have power yes, but judging a person or scolding them is not always acceptable.

    Great post 🙂

    • DadvWorld
      10th October 2017 / 10:23 pm

      Wow! Your comment is longer than my post! 😂 Seriously appreciate you taking the time to share your thoughts though, exactly the type of response I hope my posts inspire. I agree with you, what you’ve said is spot on. Actually I’ve come across a couple of your comments on various posts on Facebook too, I tend to agree with all you say! 😃 Appreciate your kind words and thanks for reading and commenting. Get in touch on Instagram too if you have time @dadvworld 👍🏻

      • 11th October 2017 / 11:13 am

        Ha! Sorry, didn’t mean to steal your sport light haha! Just the whole gender topic get’s right up my nose and when I see a post, like yours that is so correct and the was I wish everyone would think, well, you’re gonna get a long ass comment!
        Think I’m stalking you on the social medias 🙂

        • DadvWorld
          12th October 2017 / 5:18 pm

          No it’s great, it’s interaction I’m after 🙂 Yes please do get in touch across social media!

  4. 23rd January 2018 / 7:48 am

    I don’t understand the need for swearing. I did swear, because I’ve imitated others doing it. But now, as an adult, I can’t seem to find a suitable place for swearing.
    For example “this is shit”. Does it mean is broken? Or not value for money? (how do you describe value for money) Or is not working as hoped in that particular instance. There are so many other words that can actually describe better a situation or object than a random swear word.
    When it comes to swearing around children, I think it’s inappropriate. Why would a 5-year old hear and maybe start using “fuck”, “shit” or any other similar word? Is it something that enriches his/hers life or vocabulary? I don’t think so.
    But, well… each to their own.

    • DadvWorld
      25th January 2018 / 9:57 am

      Hi Anca, thanks for reading and commenting 🙂 – Yeah, I think it’s all about context. I find swearing sometimes in jokes or to exaggerate a point can make it funnier or hit home better. I think swearing routinely for no reason is pointless and agree with you. I wouldn’t just say something is shit because I don’t like it. But if I was trying to be funny with my friends or exaggerate that something was a lot worse than just rubbish, then I’d likely drop in a swear word. I don’t think kids need to be dropping in f-bombs at 5 years old, that’s a bit much. However I think the main point I was making when writing this was how did swear words be deed bad in the first place. Essentially all words are just sounds, it’s more the context and manner in which we use them that makes them bad. If I told my wife she was ugly and useless or called her a dickhead, which would she be more offended by? Probably the statement that involved no swear words. i obviously wouldn’t say either to her, well, maybe the dickhead bit now and again… HA! 🙂

  5. 25th January 2018 / 8:44 pm

    Here’s where I stand on swearing…
    Let’s be honest we all swear in adult circles. In my life I think I’ve only ever met one other adult who doesn’t swear (Ever! Period) and sometime people who I thought didn’t swear eventually do. I’m not saying it’s cool, it’s just real.
    When the girls were younger I avoided it like the plague – after all toddlers have a nasty habit of repeating things they here at the most inopportune moments don’t they? Back then “sugar” and “flipping” was as strong as it got. Now they’re older we seem to instinctively relaxed this rule. Weirdly it wasn’t a conscious decision.
    So now there’s the odd “shit”, “bugger” and “sodding” in there. Maybe a spattering of “b*llocks” and a heavy dose of “bloody”. The things is all four girls know these are adult words and are not allowed to repeat them. Now that we have teenagers they are expressing themselves more in their language and let’s be honest in their friendship circles they are banging out the “f*cks” like it’s going out of fashion. At home I generally let it slide when they drop a “bloody” or sometimes a “bloody-hell”. “F*ck” is off limits – no doubt and still off limits for me around the kids. As is “c*nt” (I actually hate this word and don’t use it myself, “knob head”, “b*stard” and the like.
    I’m not perfect. I have dropped a “f*ck” when particularly involved in a heated argument with the teenagersaurus. I ain’t proud of it and ALWAYS apologise.
    Growing up my parents didn’t use any stronger than “bloody” in my presence. But I never even used that at home. I’m 37 now and still “bloody” is the strongest swear word I will use around my mum. I have friends who used “f*ck” around their parents as a noun, adjective AND verb! People have different standards. That’s cool.
    The thing is children will become adults. They will use this language for sure. But the trick is knowing when not to use us. Learning respect is what matters. I know some of the nicest people who swear like a drunken sailor; a guy I work with uses some of the most creative language I’ve ever known (did you know he uses “Chesney” as a swear word) yet he’s a cool guy, absolutely.
    I never judge someone on the language they use. It’s HOW they use it and the unspoken language the use alongside it that I look for. I once offered a job to a young lad that dropped a couple of “f*cks” in his interview. He thought he’d totalled f*ucked it (sorry – couldn’t resist that) but he was qualified and a really nice guy. Tuned out to be a great worker, became a friend and went on to do great things.

    • DadvWorld
      25th January 2018 / 10:41 pm

      Fucking hell mate you’ve written an entire blog post here! 😂 – See what I did there…

      Yes that’s exactly it, I think swearing can be used as a tool to exaggerate a point if used at the right time, or indeed to make a joke that bit funnier.

      I also believe swearing is a good thing to use to help teach respect. I don’t mind swear words but as you mention it’s when to use them and that’s about respect. I don’t mind swearing but other people do and I respect that thus wouldn’t start effin and blinding when visiting my Nanna!

      It’s a funny old thing what people class as swearing, Corben has been called a bugger from being a baby ‘oh you little bugger’ and it’s a word used daily, I don’t class it as swearing.

      Great insight into your thinking mate really appreciate your input 😃👍🏻

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