So, April 10th I’ll have stumbled my way through my twenties and I’ve definitely woken myself up ready for my thirties. Looking back at he last decade, isn’t 20-30 a roller-coaster. Half of it you’re still young enough to have no direction in your life, be irresponsible and wear ‘Trendy’ gear. The fact I’m using the word trendy tells you where I’m at now.
Out on the town, doing whatever you want without a care in the world. I’ll grow up soon you tell yourself, I’m still only young. Then 25 is approaching and you think, mid-twenties, now’s the time to maybe start thinking about what I want in life. For me at 25 I found my now wife, nicely packaged with two ready-made daughters in the process and then added a son by 26. So yeah, mid-twenties definitely was the age my life was given direction, purpose and mainly a massive slap in the face to get my act together.
I’ve done call centre work, office work, sales, I’ve even done a stint in care for adults with learning disabilities! Jack of all trades, master of none. Then being a Dad happened and the game changed. All of a sudden what career I wanted, where I was going in life didn’t matter too much. Making sure the family was OK became my full-time focus. These last few years have been a mixture of juggling working life and home life, forever searching for that balance, a couple of house moves trying to find that homely feeling and having a whole new side to my personality grow from nowhere.
It’s a strange one, I’m still the guy I was 10 years ago, yet I’m completely different. That makes zero sense but the more I think about life, what the hell does make sense!? I’ve always been pretty vocal, had my own opinions and had plenty of energy to release, only since becoming a Dad and growing up a bit I’m using all of these parts of my personality and pointing them in the right direction. When you’re a bit younger you have all these ideas and opinions but generally are too drunk to put them to good use. Since I got my wife, Donetta, up the duff I stopped drinking alcohol in support of her whilst she couldn’t have it. The boy, Corben, then popped out and I just haven’t got back into alcohol at all. Not like I had a problem or anything I used to just drink like the usual 25 year old, a couple on a weekend etc, but once I turned that switch off it stayed off. Now you may see me drink on the very odd occasion, the time between nights out is now very long so it wouldn’t be unusual to not touch a drop for months and months. So that’s been a change during my twenties. But yeah, now I have more focus on which direction to take my ideas and where to use my energy, is that through age, experience, or because I now only drink strawberry milkshake, who knows?
I now throw myself into projects such as education! Our eldest is at high school and Donetta and I have leaped in head first on their parents fundraising team, I’m now Vice-Chairperson of the group. If an early-twenties version of me had been told I’d be doing that before 30, he’d have laughed and gone to the bar for another WKD Blue! I’m hoping to get involved in the new parent council that the school are in the process of setting up to. I will be able to actually voice my opinions in a constructive manner in the right environment, not just piss and moan at the office manager because the office was too hot! My ex-colleagues will understand that reference.
I’m blogging! I have a lot to say and now I’ve decided to set myself up a website, a forum, a digital rant space, see again, a positive move to channel my thoughts and feelings. I’d like to say I shout less at the Mrs now about my views on fatherhood and education etc but in truth I think I now tell her even more, after all who else will help me proof-read all my posts before I publish them?! It’s part of the wife’s job surely, in our house it is!
I guess what i’m concluding to is that throughout the last decade, or even going further back, I’ve always had this in my locker, all these ideas and thought’s, it’s just taken a little longer to find which direction to channel them. I’m still finding my feet, I’m enjoying being a Dad loads and the future isn’t quite mapped out but that works for me. I like the freedom. I might get an opportunity via my blogging, I may one day finish the book I’ve started writing and get a break with that. Hell I might still go into politics or education…. OK maybe I am a little old to start that game, although I’d love to have a crack at fixing this broken country with it’s stone age education system but that’s another blog post!
Drunken, forgotten memories, leading into less hazy self awareness of becoming an adult, nose diving straight into full blown family man mode. That’s been my twenties and I cannot wait for my thirties! The last decade has been major self discovery, now I’m fully aware of who I am, all that’s left to find out is exactly what I’m capable of, no limits and now I have my own army of 5 to follow me into battle against the world!
Tell me about your experiences and thoughts, are you still a youngen’ or are you knocking on a bit? What’s your next milestone and how do you feel about your last so many years, have you changed? Do you do anything now that a younger you would have laughed at? I think I’ll add another post once I’ve gone through the change of my age starting with a 3 instead of a 2!
Feedback as always greatly appreciated and I have a new found love for Twitter @dadvworld, ‘hit me up on there’…. I can use that phrase can’t I, I’m not 30 yet!?