The big 3.0 coming up next!

The big 3.0 coming up next!

So, April 10th I’ll have stumbled my way through my twenties and I’ve definitely woken myselfย up ready for my thirties. Looking back at he last decade, isn’t 20-30 a roller-coaster. Half of it you’re still young enough to have no direction in your life, be irresponsible and wear ‘Trendy’ gear. The fact I’m using the word trendy tells you where I’m at now.

Out on the town, doing whatever you want without a care in the world. I’ll grow up soon you tell yourself, I’m still only young. Then 25 is approaching and you think, mid-twenties, now’s the time to maybe start thinking about what I want in life. For me at 25 I found my now wife, nicely packaged with two ready-made daughters in the process and then added a son by 26. So yeah, mid-twenties definitely was the age my life was given direction, purpose and mainly a massive slap in the face to get my act together.

I’ve done call centre work, office work, sales, I’ve even done a stint in care for adults with learning disabilities! Jack of all trades, master of none. Then being a Dad happened and the game changed. All of a sudden what career I wanted, where I was going in life didn’t matter too much. Making sure the family was OK became my full-time focus. These last few years have been a mixture of juggling working life and home life, forever searching for that balance, a couple of house moves trying to find that homely feeling and having a whole new side to my personality grow from nowhere.

It’s a strange one, I’m still the guy I was 10 years ago, yet I’m completely different. That makes zero sense but the more I think about life, what the hell does make sense!? I’ve always been pretty vocal, had my own opinions and had plenty of energy to release, only since becoming a Dad and growing up a bit I’m using all of these parts of my personality and pointing them in the right direction. When you’re a bit younger you have all these ideas and opinions but generally are too drunk to put them to good use. Since I got my wife, Donetta, up the duff I stopped drinking alcohol in support of her whilst she couldn’t have it. The boy, Corben, then popped out and I just haven’t got back into alcohol at all. Not like I had a problem or anything I used to just drink like the usual 25 year old, a couple on a weekend etc, but once I turned that switch off it stayed off. Now you may see me drink on the very odd occasion, the time between nights out is now very long so it wouldn’t be unusual to not touch a drop for months and months. So that’s been a change during my twenties. But yeah, now I have more focus on which direction to take my ideas and where to use my energy, is that through age, experience, or because I now only drink strawberry milkshake, who knows?

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The day out in Leeds that ended at home watching Netflix with a takeaway by 830pm!

I now throw myself into projects such as education! Our eldest is at high school and Donetta and I have leaped in head first on their parents fundraising team, I’m now Vice-Chairperson of the group. If an early-twenties version of me had been told ย I’d be doing that before 30, he’d have laughed and gone to the bar for another WKD Blue! I’m hoping to get involved in the new parent council that the school are in the process of setting up to. I will be able to actually voice my opinions in a constructive manner in the right environment, not just piss and moan at the office manager because the office was too hot! My ex-colleagues will understand that reference.

I’m blogging! I have a lot to say and now I’ve decided to set myself up a website, a forum, a digital rant space, see again, a positive move to channel my thoughts and feelings. I’d like to say I shout less at the Mrs now about my views on fatherhood and education etc but in truth I think I now tell her even more, after all who else will help me proof-read all my posts before I publish them?! It’s part of the wife’s job surely, in our house it is!

I guess what i’m concluding to is that throughout the last decade, or even going further back, I’ve always had this in my locker, all these ideas and thought’s, it’s just taken a little longer to find which direction to channel them. I’m still finding my feet, I’m enjoying being a Dad loads and the future isn’t quite mapped out but that works for me. I like the freedom. I might get an opportunity via my blogging, I may one day finish the book I’ve started writing and get a break with that. Hell I might still go into politics or education…. OK maybe I am a little old to start that game, although I’d love to have a crack at fixing this broken country with it’s stone age education system but that’s another blog post!

Drunken, forgotten memories, leading into less hazy self awareness of becoming an adult, nose diving straight into full blown family man mode. That’s been my twenties and I cannot wait for my thirties! The last decade has been major self discovery, now I’m fully aware of who I am, all that’s left to find out is exactly what I’m capable of, no limits and now I have my own army of 5 to follow me into battle against the world!

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I have a Captain America and a Hulk!

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My Army of 5!

 

Tell me about your experiences and thoughts, are you still a youngen’ or are you knocking on a bit? What’s your next milestone and how do you feel about your last so many years, have you changed? Do you do anything now that a younger you would have laughed at? I think I’ll add another post once I’ve gone through the change of my age starting with a 3 instead of a 2!

Feedback as always greatly appreciated and I have a new found love for Twitter @dadvworld, ‘hit me up on there’…. I can use that phrase can’t I, I’m not 30 yet!?

 

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41 Comments

  1. 24th March 2016 / 11:25 pm

    Well done on making this decision! it’s not easy I know, I started my blog as when I was 30! despite no one believes I am 32 ๐Ÿ˜‰

    • 24th March 2016 / 11:33 pm

      Ha! Thanks for commenting. I’m really enjoying it! So you’re a pro blogger now, well check it out:)

  2. 26th March 2016 / 9:21 am

    I’m 25 at the moment and even since 5 years they has been lots of changes! My mum always mentions every birthday, you’re getting closer to 30 ๐Ÿ˜€

    • 26th March 2016 / 9:33 am

      Yeah, people older tend to like to remind you constantly you are too getting older. Must be a coping mechanism they have haha! ๐Ÿ˜€ – Thanks for reading!

  3. 28th March 2016 / 2:25 pm

    I never really considered myself an adult till I had my daughter. To think I actually had her later in life. Did the career bit first, before getting married. I’m in my early 40s now, I think I feel somewhere between an adult and someone in their early 20s (if that makes any sense) ๐Ÿ˜‰

    • 28th March 2016 / 2:34 pm

      It makes perfect sense. Kids do that to you, I don’t think you can ever have a particular responsibility like it. Careers are important but raising another life wins hands down ๐Ÿ™‚

      • 28th March 2016 / 2:35 pm

        PS… Thanks for your comment, really appreciate it ๐Ÿ™‚

  4. 28th March 2016 / 3:06 pm

    Oh how life is different from my wkd blue days haha. I used to think i was too old to start a new career but really you are never to old, i will be home educating my 2 youngest so i guess thats says a bit about how i feel about the education system, started a new buisness which fits perfectly with our lifestyle as well as improving it and hopefully help us to balance everything a bit more. Great post i really enjoyed reading it, plus love your photos you have a gorgeous family. – Marie

    • 28th March 2016 / 3:12 pm

      Aww thank you for that! I’m glad you enjoyed it. You must drink redbull and coffee non-stop to do all that you do! WKD Blue aye, it’s nice! ๐Ÿ™‚

      • 28th March 2016 / 3:42 pm

        No coffee or caffine for us, all natural over here haha i will reveal.out secret soon ๐Ÿ™‚

        • 28th March 2016 / 4:06 pm

          Running on pure happiness and positivity!

  5. 28th March 2016 / 3:42 pm

    I still feel like I am 21 and I am well over thirty but not near 40 ha x

    • 28th March 2016 / 4:07 pm

      My mind feels young still, my body however… Ready for the scrap yard! Thank You for commenting ๐Ÿ™‚

  6. 28th March 2016 / 3:44 pm

    I’m 25, approaching 26 in a couple of months and I cannot believe how fast my 20s is disappearing… I get scared at times thinking about it but then I learn to let go of that “number” that seems to define us. I’m happy with where my life is right now so that’s good and I appreciate everything I have. Absolutely no complaints or regrets. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Oliver โ€ข http://suedeandsymphony.com

    • 28th March 2016 / 4:09 pm

      I’ve read your blog and you my friend should be very pleased! The things you’ve done and seen are things most people won’t ever get the chance to, you’re definitely making the most of your youth. ๐Ÿ™‚

      • 28th March 2016 / 4:11 pm

        Awww thanks! Although I wouldn’t call what I have ‘youth’… it’s been a while since I was youthful. lol But still, I guess I’m young at heart, such a cliche but it’s so true! You are how you feel inside!!

        O

  7. 28th March 2016 / 5:14 pm

    What a huge life change at 25. Sounds like you are utterly prepared for your 30s. Enjoy them and enjoy blogging.

  8. 28th March 2016 / 6:15 pm

    Eek, turning 32 next month means my next big milestone is 40!!! I definitely think the decade between 20 and 30 is life-defining. It’s when you’d finish uni, attempt to settle into a career, maybe start a family … Huge changes!
    Happy birthday, I hope your lovely family spoils you.
    Alana x

    • 28th March 2016 / 6:17 pm

      Ah thanks Alana! I’m sure they will. You’re right it can definitely define you that particular decade. My 30s I hope to put into play everything I’ve learnt from the last 10 years. 40…. Uff! ๐Ÿ™‚

  9. 28th March 2016 / 7:25 pm

    I am 35 in a few months – so half way towards the next decade :/ I don’t think I have been actually drunk since 2011, before I got pregnant for the first time. Children definitely change your whole perspective. In my early twenties I was at uni and drinking snake bite and black with a shot of pernod in it. Times change. Tea and bed at 9.30 is totally the new snake bite and black ๐Ÿ˜‰

    • 28th March 2016 / 7:28 pm

      Haha!! Snake bite and black! Jeez, I drank that once for a whole night, at an age I maybe shouldn’t have and the results guaranteed I never drank it again! Kids, they have all this power even before they can talk or walk. Thanks for your comment ๐Ÿ™‚

  10. 28th March 2016 / 10:01 pm

    I can’t believe I’m coming up 30 – but at the same time I can’t believe how different my life is now to my early 20s. I was at my parents this weekend and my brother had been out til 6:30am and was off out again the next day at 4pm. Just the thought of it made me want to sleep for a week! I love it though, there seems so much more to life now my daughter’s in it. (And if anybody had told me I’d come out with lines like that one day, well…!)

    • 28th March 2016 / 10:08 pm

      Ha! You’re so right. There’s a whole new perspective on life now and frankly it’s better! 630am jeez, I get up before then!

  11. 29th March 2016 / 7:40 am

    Well done for setting up your blog and supporting your wife and family that is lovely. You should be so proud of yourself and you are a great role model too.

    • 29th March 2016 / 8:21 am

      ThankYou!! that’s lovely to hear ๐Ÿ™‚

  12. 29th March 2016 / 10:21 am

    Having Blake when I was 24 made really grow up I’m 26 in June and I delfinetly can say my life has changed for the better having Blake and can hardly remember life before having him.

    • 29th March 2016 / 10:59 am

      It gives you an entirely different outlook on life doesn’t it. Thanks for commenting ๐Ÿ™‚

  13. 29th March 2016 / 1:18 pm

    I have a 17-year-old and I wonder all the time how life is so different to hers – I was 17 when I met my first ex-husband – she’s still very much a child but at 17 I was playing at happy families and adulthood – I am sad that I missed out on so much. But at 36 my 6 children are all a little older now so I am just starting to be able to go out and live a little – in 4 years I will be hitting 40 and I think OMG when did I get so old

    • 29th March 2016 / 1:31 pm

      You will soon be reaping the rewards of having children earlier. You will be young and fresh enough to try and keep up with them haha ๐Ÿ™‚ Thanks for commenting ๐Ÿ™‚

    • 29th March 2016 / 1:59 pm

      Sometimes when I’m running around with a pirate sword, bandana and parrot on my shoulder shouting AArrr I still think I’m 5. It wouldn’t be so bad but that’s after the boy has gone to bed ๐Ÿ˜€

  14. 29th March 2016 / 6:43 pm

    Having a blog is a great platfoam to voice your concerns, I started mine 3 years ago and it has been great. I will be 29 this July and keep thinking this is my final year to get my life together, I have finished uni and have a great job but none of what I want ‘a family’ but I am told all in good time so I will wait.

    • 29th March 2016 / 6:48 pm

      Yes don’t be hurried into having a family. That’s something that can’t be undone lol! When the times right. ๐Ÿ™‚

      • 29th March 2016 / 6:57 pm

        Hahahaha, so true it definitely can not been undone. I am currently just enjoying my travels and when the big 3.0 comes round next year I hope I will be ready for it.

        • 29th March 2016 / 6:58 pm

          Yes travel. Something I’d like to have done a lot more of. I’m sure things will work out just right ๐Ÿ™‚

          • 29th March 2016 / 7:14 pm

            Thanks ๐Ÿ™‚

  15. 29th March 2016 / 8:09 pm

    My life fast-forwarded in my mid twenties too – but now at 31 I wouldn’t change a thing. Have a great birthday!!

  16. 30th March 2016 / 7:41 am

    Happy Birthday for 10th April – I have a good 12 years on you and my 30’s were definitely the best decade so far!

    • 30th March 2016 / 7:57 am

      Thank You! Let’s hope mine are too ๐Ÿ™‚

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