Dads, dads, everywhere! Where have all of the dads come from?!
When I started blogging just over two and a half years ago one of the reasons was that there weren’t many dads creating content online. I stopped full-time employment for the first time in my life to become a stay-at-home dad and wanted to know what all the other dads were up to. I went online and found very little. That’s when I thought, well hang about, maybe I can help fill that gap.
Parenting has forever been the mothers domain. Let’s not dick about it just has. Everything parent related has been geared towards mums for as far back as you want to go, so there’s always been content to help mums and forums for them to gain support.
Well I think it’s safe to say the David of today searching online for what all the other dads are doing won’t have the same issue I had, they’re everywhere! Two and a half years ago you couldn’t have a Top 10 Dad Bloggers list because there were only 4 of them! OK I’m exaggerating but you get what I’m saying, now every dad is a #DadBlogger and if they’re not they’re an #InstaDad. It’s safe to say this current generation of dads have embraced parenthood and all those #InstaMoments that come with it.
Personally I think it’s great to see so many dads actively involved in every aspect of their children’s lives. It’s how I believe it should be, if you’re a dad you need to step up and be involved.
In the past it’s almost been like parenting was a choice for the men. I’ve written before about how the notion that mums are better than dads came about from my point of view. Far too many men leaving all the work to the mums and in some cases doing one and not being involved at all in their child’s life. It’s much more rare to see a woman give birth and do one leaving the kid with the bloke. I’m not saying it hasn’t/doesn’t happen but I’m sure the numbers would back me up.
The perception of a dad now though is changing massively. We’re not the bread winners, we’re not the weekend parents or secondary option to mums, many of us are smashing parenting every bit as good as the mums. How it should be.
A MASSIVE shout-out to the single parents by the way, you are genuine LEGENDS and deserve huge respect. My view on this is obviously from my personal circumstances where both parents are present.
Social media, Instagram in particular is having a huge impact on the rise of the modern father. It’s providing a worldwide platform for dads to showcase their epic parenting skills and what they bring to the table as parents. The community of dads online has grown at a ridiculous rate over the last couple of years and is continuing to grow by the day.
For all of the benefits of this, I have noticed a similar pattern emerging that I want to hear your thoughts on…
Remember how mums were the first to the dance with the whole blogging thing and it was all cool and mums had a platform, a community and other mums to conquer the world with? Then, do you remember how some mums then started to appear as though they’d figured the whole parenting thing out better than the others, balancing the baby, lipstick and breastfeeding all at once with their pre-pregnancy tummies back only a week after giving birth? Leaving the other mums feeling shit, stressed and wondering how they become an Insta-perfect mum too.
Are dads on a similar inevitable cycle?
Being a dad is cool, being a dad that then blogs and Instagrams is really cool and then being a dad that has an Insta dad army with the perfect work/life balance and photoshopped dad moment images is even cooler, apparently.
Are the dad bloggers and dad Instagrammers of the world walking that same path the mums have been down? Are some of us giving off the wrong impression, are we ‘dadding’ for show, are we creating perfect daddy-child moments for our children or for Instagram?
Is this a contributing factor to the rise in men/dads talking about their mental health? Or can we flip it and say it’s created a more comfortable, accepting environment that has enabled men to talk more openly?
I’m throwing out these questions because I’m massively intrigued to what you think. My personal point of view is that it’s great to see so many dads sharing their parenting experiences with others, creating their own support networks of other dads and generally creating a positive vibe around being a dad.
I’m a dad, I’m also a blogger and share much of my life across social media. As much as I am as real as possible when creating my content, I am aware I mostly want to capture the positives of my journey. I want any man, dad or even woman or mum to know that my inbox along with our David and Donetta inbox is ALWAYS open if anyone wants to talk about anything.
The rise of the dads is a fantastic thing, let’s keep it a great online environment for support and positivity.
Thanks for reading,